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Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

28 Questions

What should you do if you find out that your brother is having illegitimate relations outside of marriage with a non-Muslim and that they may also be consuming alcohol with friends?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

The most important thing a person must do in life is be very cautious about the circle of friends he/she has, and who they associate with. 

We need to be extremely picky and sensitive towards this. 

You need to advice your brother about the direction he is going, and how all this will affect his spirit and religious faith. Try to show him the bad effects of these people he is associating with, and how damaging something like an illegitimate relationship will be, and also alcohol. 

If your advice does not have any effect, try to ask someone he respects to intervene, inform your parents to calmly advice him, and just try your best to dissuade him. Seek advice from people around you as well, who know him.

Dua is also very important. Hopefully, he will come to his conscience and realise the wrong direction he is heading. Just never give up.

With prayers for your success. 
I have a toxic brother who has disrespected every member of my family multiple times including spitting on our mother. Am I allowed to cut ties with him?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Not at all. No matter how bad is your brother or relative, you should never cut ties with him but you should avoid endorsing his wrong acts.

You must keep a link with him through any suitable way of communication and keep advising and guiding him as and when you have a chance.

Wassalam.
My brother entrusted me with his money and my dad asked that I should lend him some money from it. Am I allowed to do that?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

If you know that your brother would be ok with you using his amanah in a wise and responsible way, and that you would return it back to your brother once he asks for it, then you are allowed to lend that money to your father. 

And Allah knows best.
I just found out that my brother is homosexual. His view is that it is not a choice and if he could help it he would not be gay. We are a Syed Shia family and are very concerned about this matter. What should we do?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Allah, The Most Merciful, The Most Compassionate never created a human being forced to do something which is clearly forbidden by Him. He mentioned in Quran and previous holy texts the sever punishment of people of Sodom when they insisted on their evil practice despite the teaching of their Prophet Lut (AS).

It is false and wrong to claim that this act is not a choice. It is in fact a desire like the desire of fornication or adultery or any sinful sexual desire. There are people who have sexual desires towards married women or to their own real sisters or even towards animals. It is simply an evil desire which can never be justified.

If your brother believes in Allah, then how can he understand the sever punishment mentioned in Quran ( Sura Hood, verse 82) and ( Sura al-Hijr, verse 74) on those who used to do similar acts.

You need to talk to your brother and remind him about the facts mentioned in Quran and by the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS). You may take him to trusted scholars who can explain to him that desire is not a destiny especially when it goes against the clear and essential facts of Islam and morals.

If he applies his intellect and think properly, he should then realise the truth, but if he refuses the truth and insists on evil desires, then you can not help him as he is not willing to help himself. Nevertheless, you should not lose hope any way. Keep on trying to explain to him, as well as praying to Allah (SWT) to guide him.

Wassalam.