1. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims
  2. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

6 Questions

Is it permissible for a 37-year-old divorced woman to occasionally masturbate to avoid sin, particularly in a country where finding a Muslim husband is difficult and considering the hormonal changes affecting her menstrual cycle?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

No. Masturbation is a sinful act and we are not allowed to commit it under such excuse. Masturbation itself is itself a sinful act, and it can never be permitted for a Muslim female. There are many things mentioned in Quran and authentic Hadeeth which help avoiding falling in sexual sinful acts like:1. Fasting which helps a lot in controlling sexual urge. 2. Avoiding things which increase sexual urge like photos, films, music and songs.

3. Remembering the pious females who are the best models for us like lady Fatima, lady Mariam, lady Zainab, lady Ummul Baneen and other pious females.

4. Remembering the punishment of the sins and great reward of the piousness in this life and hereafter.

Wassalam.
Can I pray to Allah to remain in Al-A'raf rather than entering paradise, since I am uncomfortable with the thought of my husband receiving fifty thousand hoor, even without any jealousy? I have no desire for any blessings of paradise.
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

No. Your question seems to reflect very limited side of Paradise and ignore very important facts about Paradise. Paradise does not have materialistic desires only, but more importantly has spiritual happiness and Ridgwan Minallah Akbar ( Pleasure from Allah which is Greater). Paradise is the place of the Prophets and Infallible Imams and people of Pardise enjoy the neighborhood of the Prophets 

and the Infallible Imams and have the pleasure of seeing them.

I advise you to read more about Paradise and don't restrict it to what lay people say.

Wassalam.
What happens if you keep committing a sin to fulfil your sexual desire, then stop, but then you end up doing it again on purpose even though you know it is wrong? How does one rectify such a situation?
Zoheir Ali Esmail

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. In short, you have to keep trying until the sexual desire starts to subside. When you have committed sins relating to sexual desires the desire becomes more intense and so trying to prevent it takes a lot of willpower. At times, in the beginning, the desire overcomes the willpower even if you know what you are doing is wrong which results in a lot of guilt. That guilt needs to be used to increase your willpower until you can finally break the cycle and then over time the desire will become subdued and controllable. It is also important to seek halal means to fulfil sexual desires so that you have an outlet as sexual desires without an outlet become all the more intense.

Just keep going and don't give up. In the end with a lot of effort, you will succeed and after a time those sins will be a thing of the past.

May you always be successful
Will we be able to keep our pets in Jannah on the basis that we will have there whatever we desire?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

All good desires of the believers will be fulfilled in Paradise. If having that pet in Paradise is good for the believer, he/she will get it there. If having it in the Paradise is not good, the believer will not desire to have it.

Wassalam.