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Why are men allowed to feel jealous over their wives, while a wife cannot feel jealous over her husband?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

I was hoping that one of sisters will answer this question but as did not see any reply I am answering briefly:

Jealousy of the wife over her husband can be against the rule of Allah Who allowed the man under certain conditions to have another wife. Jealousy against a rule from Allah is direct or indirect objection on Allah's rule, that is why it is bad.
Jealousy of man over his wife is against any relation between his wife and any other man, which is always a sinful act because she is a married woman and never allowed any act or word which can initiate a relation with another man. Husband's jealousy over his wife (without false allegations) is good to protect her and the whole family from a sinful act. You can then compare between a jealousy going against Allah;s rule and a Jealousy to protect the wife and the family from a sinful act.

'Wassalam.
Is it allowed for a man to marry a second wife without the permission of the first one? If yes, can a woman and her husband agreed as a condition before marriage that the husband will not marry another woman? Will that be a valid condition?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

If the woman puts a condition on the marriage contract that her husband should not have another wife during he is married to her, and the husband agrees on such condition, then it becomes binding on the husband to fulfill this condition which is part of the marriage contract.

Wassalam.
In what specific matters does a husband need to maintain equality if he has more than one wife? What do the narrations say regarding a person who does not treat his two wives in the same manner?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Husband must maintain practical justice between his wives. Practical justice is in treating them and spending time with each of them equally like he spends time with his other wives. It also requires spending on each of them equally.
Wassalam.
I have been married for a year and my husband admits that he does not have much interest in intercourse and that he does not feel any kind of sexual attraction towards me. What should I do in this situation? 
Amina Inloes

This happens sometimes.

It is your decision whether to stay in the marriage, or pursue separation.

Some factors to take into consideration are:
* whether or not you hope to bear children
* how important physical intimacy is to you (it is important to most people, but some people choose to remain in a marriage without physical intimacy)
* whether you fear you might fall into sin in this type of situation
* whether the marriage is working out in other ways (such as emotionally or practically - with emotional considerations such as, do you love each other, are you dedicated to each other, do you feel bonded with each other, do you feel like a family, do you have future plans for yourselves as a family that you are both working towards, etc.)

Often in these cases, where there is an absence of attraction from one side from the beginning, the underlying relationship in the marriage fails to develop and the relationship breaks down (whether that results in actual divorce, or just living like roommates - usually with a fair degree of tension - or just a marriage on paper).

This is unless there was a prior agreement to have a marriage with little or no physical intimacy and they have other reasons why they want to be together and the marraige works for them.

Maybe your husband might also have a sense of what should be done - it is ideal when it is joint decision.

Sorry to hear about your challenging situation and wishing you the best.