1. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims
  2. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

25 Questions

Is the requirement for a mediator a significant dealbreaker in a marriage proposal, considering my family turned down a potential match with a girl because her father insisted on having one?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

It is not obligatory to have a mediator in marriage proposal. It is good to have one if it has been requested by any family involved in the proposal. It is not good to turn down a suitable proposal just because of lack of a mediator.
'Wassalam.
Can I reject a boy for marriage even if my parents did Istikhara and it came out positive? Can I pray for a better proposal in my Dua?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Your marriage is invalid with out your full acceptance and agreeing. Your parents' Istekhara is for them to agree or not, but it does not bind you. You can go for Istekhara yourself or jointly with your parents if you are not clear and need guidance through an Istekhara.

You can pray for better proposal in your Du'a.

'Wassalam.
What are legitimate reasons in Islam for a girl's father to decline a proposal from a boy?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

In this kind of situation, it is always best to have correct healthy communication with parents, to see the grounds, requirements and expectations the parents have towards who they want their child to get married to. 

You might think the father's excuse is baseless, or unfair, but your assessment might be wrong. 

The father is the guardian (wali), and he must act according to the interest of the daughter, which means if someone who is religious and has akhlaq, and is compatible to her (kuf`), proposes, and she expresses interest and approves, and everything is good from every other aspect, it is haram for him to refuse.

In Islam, it is called 'adhl (عضل), and it means the male guardian prohibiting marriage of women under his custody. And it is haram. 

And Allah knows best
Can the marriage proceed despite a bad Istikhara result, given that the families were initially satisfied with the guy's religiousness and hardworking nature before the Istikhara was done?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Istekhara is not obligatory in every situation. Istekhara is seeking guidance when you are unable to decide. If the matter was clear for you, then there is no need for Istekhara. Unnecessary Istekhara is not binding.

'Wassalam.