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Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

176 Questions

If my parents want me to become a doctor, but I am passionate about computer science and their lack of support is causing me distress, should I still follow their wishes despite not wanting to pursue medicine?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

In lot of cases, parents have certain standards and expectations for their children, in which at times are different to the child, and I strongly believe parents should support their son/daughter in the field they are passionate in and interested in pursuing, and should encourage, as long as it is halal, honourable and ambitious. 

If it is causing you distress, and you do not think you can pursue it, then be frank with them, and try to convince them of your area of interest. In shaa Allah they will understand you and support you. 

The important thing is you always try to make yourself and your family proud, in being a high achiever. 

With prayers for your success
My parents got 4 Istekharas done that came out positive. I then got engaged and now, close to my wedding, my parents got Istekhara done again that has came out negative. What should I do?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Act upon the first Istekhara. No other Istekhara on the same matter unless there is a change in the matter.

Wassalam.
My wife dislikes my parents due to the problems they caused in our marriage and she is demanding from me to cut ties with my parents. Is it allowed in Islam?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

It is very unfortunate that your wife is holding onto a grudge, especially towards her parent-in-laws, which is not good and will affect her relationship with you as well. Whatever happened, and if they were right or wrong, both sides should think greater than that and focus on building good ties with each other. 

Her demanding you to cut ties is also very unethical and haram as well, and you must not accomodate to that as well. 
She must learn to forgive and forget, and respect elders, and forcing someone to cut ties with parents is gravely wrong and a major sin.

And Allah knows best.
My wife dislikes my parents due to the problems they caused in our marriage and she is demanding from me to cut ties with my parents. Is it allowed in Islam?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

It is absolutely forbidden in Islam to cut ties with your parents and this sin is one of the most dangerous major sins which has disastrous results in this life and hereafter. Never listen to any one who tell you to be away from your parents because this is what Shaitan wants you to do in order to be with Shaitan against Allah and against your parents. Whatever your parents did or still do which you don't like, you must be very nice to them even if they were unbelievers.

Wassalam.