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Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

176 Questions

Did Prophet Muhammad (s) perform the Hajj pilgrimage for his parents?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

The parents of the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) were from the best believers of their time and both of them did perform their Hajj. The Proohet (SAWA) encouraged Muslims to perform J=Hajj on behalf of their percents who did not perform Hajj or in general as we read in many Hadeeths. Performing recommended Hajj on behalf of the parents is highly recommended. No doubt, the Prophet (SAWA) did perform recommended Hajj on behalf of his parents.

Wassalam.
I am 14 years old and my parents are getting divorced. My mother wants me to stay with her and she keeps reminding me about the power of a mother's Du'a so that I would not hurt her feelings. How should I choose which parent to stay with?
Rebecca Masterton

I am sorry that you are having to go through this at your age. Firstly, you should not have to choose to stay with any parent. Being pressured to stay with one parent or another today constitutes as emotional abuse. If you have a good relationship with your father, then you are not under any obligation to stay with your mother. The fact that she is using religion to threaten you and coerce you into staying with her is disturbing, and implies possibly a history of emotional manipulation. There are now many helpful videos on youtube on how to handle emotional manipulation by parents, such as 'The Cra**y Childhood Fairy' and Jerry Wise. Emotional manipulation can damage a child for life, so you need to learn to make sense of what is happening to you and how you can handle it effectively in a way that maintains your self-protection and healthy mental and emotional growth.
Can I reject a boy for marriage even if my parents did Istikhara and it came out positive? Can I pray for a better proposal in my Dua?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Your marriage is invalid with out your full acceptance and agreeing. Your parents' Istekhara is for them to agree or not, but it does not bind you. You can go for Istekhara yourself or jointly with your parents if you are not clear and need guidance through an Istekhara.

You can pray for better proposal in your Du'a.

'Wassalam.
What is the obligation when a child unintentionally witnesses the parents engaging in an intimate act? If required, what type and amount of compensation, Kafara or Sadqa, should be given?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

There is no kaffarah or anything to be paid, but there are two very important thing everyone must always remember.

1. Parents, or anyone being intimate must secure their privacy first, making sure there will be no intrusion, and have absolute certainty that nobody can or will be able to see or hear them. Even infant children should be away from their parents, and we have narrations from Ahlul Bayt (a.s.) that strongly censure parents being intimate with the presence of even a baby. 

2. Whenever someone is living with other people, he/she must always remember to announce themselves, knock doors, make a noise, say "Ya Allah", to inform others of their presence, and so on. This is to avoid seeing somebody without their clothes, or in a situation that they are uncomfortable in, etc. 

In the case something happens unintentionally, it should be forgotten, not mentioned, and just be stricter in observing these two points. 

And Allah knows best