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  2. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

88 Questions

Is it wrong for me to feel that as a wife, my primary duty is to my husband, and not necessarily to maintain a constant close relationship with my mother-in-law?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

No doubt, your primary duty is to your husband, but never cause your husband a harm or insult or disrespect through ignoring his family. Your positive attitude to your in-laws reflects on the life and happiness of your husband. Try your best to keep your husband happy and respected in his family.

Maintaing good relationship with your in-laws is part of the happiness and respect of your husband.

Wassalam..
What supplications can I recite for my critically ill 39-year-old mother who is experiencing excessive blood loss and a decreased heart rate?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

After applying medical instructions from the reliable specialists, you may recite: وإذا مَرِضتْ فَهُوَ يَشفين WA ITHA MARIDHTU FAHOWA YASHFEEN.

Also: YA WALIYYAL 'AAFIYAH NAS'ALOKAL 'AAFIYAH.

It is also very useful to recite Night Prayer (Salat Al-Layl or Namaz e Shab) every night and pray for your need.

Sadaqz and Ziyarat Ashura are also very useful.

Wassalam.
I am 14 years old and my parents are getting divorced. My mother wants me to stay with her and she keeps reminding me about the power of a mother's Du'a so that I would not hurt her feelings. How should I choose which parent to stay with?
Rebecca Masterton

I am sorry that you are having to go through this at your age. Firstly, you should not have to choose to stay with any parent. Being pressured to stay with one parent or another today constitutes as emotional abuse. If you have a good relationship with your father, then you are not under any obligation to stay with your mother. The fact that she is using religion to threaten you and coerce you into staying with her is disturbing, and implies possibly a history of emotional manipulation. There are now many helpful videos on youtube on how to handle emotional manipulation by parents, such as 'The Cra**y Childhood Fairy' and Jerry Wise. Emotional manipulation can damage a child for life, so you need to learn to make sense of what is happening to you and how you can handle it effectively in a way that maintains your self-protection and healthy mental and emotional growth.
My mother isn’t very fond of me going to therapy although I have tried to explain to her multiple times I urgently need it. Can I go behind my mother’s back and seek therapy since I really need it even though she would be upset if she found out?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

You should avoid anything which hurts your mother's feelings. If you find that therapy is really necessary for your health, then never let her know that you did something which she does not like you to do.

Wassalam.