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Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

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I have been in a respectful long-distance relationship for 3 years. After praying for guidance, we briefly separated but later reunited. I haven't shared my picture yet. Should I trust this relationship or seek more clarity on it?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'āla

I do not know your circumstances, and you might both have a valid reason as to why you have not got married yet, but I do not really understand what "respectful long-distance relationship" is. Does it mean you are married, or in a temporary contract, or neither?

Decide to either commit to each other by getting married and being husband and wife, or make your final decision. It is unfair to be in limbo state like this. 

If after 3 years, you still do no know if you can share a picture or not, what have you both been doing? Only you can make the evaluation and judgment of how far to take this, and whether you should share your personal images, or not.

Please remember the purpose of relationships, especially from what our religion Islam says. 

And Allah knows best
Should my future children adhere to Sunni or Shia teachings since a Sunni boy wishes to marry me, although I identify as a Twelver Shia?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Your responsibility is to teach your children the real Islamic teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) and his Ahlul Bayt (AS) and bring them up as sincere followers of the Prophet and his Progeny (AS). If you have a reasonable possibility that this marriage might harm your faith and religious practice, you should then avoid it. You faith in Allah, the Prophet and Ahlul Bayt (AS) is more important your sentiments and emotions.

Wassalam.
Is it permissible for me to renew my Nikah to include specific conditions? I was not informed that I could add such conditions during the initial agreement, and I wish to exercise that right now.
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'āla

No, you cannot "renew" your nikah. What you can do is add conditions as a part of a binding contract ('aqd lazim), and it will be binding.

And Allah knows best
Can a wife refuse her husband's second marriage if he denied her marital rights, had an affair, is unwilling to live with her, and she also wants separation before he remarries?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi
There are conditions in Islam for those who need more than one wife, with out fulfilling these conditions, they are not allowed but just one wife as we read in Quran (But if you fear that you shall not deal justly with more than one wife, then just one wife) (Sura Annisaa', verse 3).
If the husband is dealing with his wives justly and giving every wife her rights equally, none of wives has a right to object on his second marriage. She does not have a right to ask for separation or Talaq as far as he is giving her rights equally with practical justice.
If the husband is committing wrong or injustice, she can complain with authentic evidence to the Marje' of Taqleed.
Wassalam.