Major sins are the most dangerous sins which lead to hellfire. We have many authentic narrations listing these major sins. Wasa’il al-Shia, volume 15, pages 313 to 331.
Rape is one of the major sins as it is a crime on innocent person which is more dangerous than destruction the Ka’ba (according to authentic Hadeeth), beside it includes another major sin of fornication. Rape is a complex major sin, that is why its punishment is very severe in Islam which is killing him.
Shirk is also one of the major sins as Allah (SWT) Says in Quran (Verily, Shirk is a very big injustice)(Sura Luqman; verse 13).
Allah, The Exalted, Has Ordered in justice and fairness and prevented injustice and wrong. Allah (SWT) Helps those who do good and never Helps in wrong. Those who commit crimes do that with out any help from Allah but because if their criminal intentions and acts. Allah (SWT) Does not stop criminals but He never Helps them. Many prophets including Prophet Yahya (AS) and Infallible Imams were killed by the criminals. Allah (SWT) Will definitely punish the criminals but He Does not Stop them. Life is an exam for all people and the exam needs freedom to do good or bad then results will be according to what we intentionally did. It is wrong to think that Allah (SWT) should stop criminals from committing crimes. Such thinking is against the freedom of people to choose and opt to do good or bad then face the results of their deeds. Imam Hussain (AS) and his children and companions were killed in Karbala and Allah (SWT) never Stopped the criminals. They will definitely face the results of their crimes and victims will be granted great reward for their sufferings.
I wanted to add that it would not be a good thing if, after the marriage, the man holds onto this idea and becomes obsessed with it or brings it up in every argument or uses it as an excuse for other behaviour. You have already suffered and don't need someone to make you continue to suffer for the rest of your life. Plus, you deserve someone who will appreciate you for all you are, not someone who is having hesitations! Perhaps he will mature later in life, since, when we judge people unfairly, life has a way of teaching us lessons.
It is sad to hear what happened to you, and through your Iman and reliance on Allah ta'ala, you will become stronger and stronger, not allowing the evil incident to define who you are.
If this man cannot accept you for that, and you are upfront and genuine about everything, even if there might be lapses of emotional distraught or something that affects you due to the trauma, but yet he is still hesitant, then he is no good for you at all.
You should not see yourself of less value, nor should you accept someone who sees you as "broken", or anything negative of that sort.
Limit your interaction with this person, and focus more on yourself, and your relationship with Almighty God, who will facilitate the best of things for you and your future, in shaa Allah.
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