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Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

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I am a married woman who committed adultery and I have also informed my husband about it. We have children together and I am seeking a solution for this difficult situation. Is it allowed for my husband to forgive me for the sake of our children?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismhi ta'ala

This is going to be a choice the husband makes. Of course, you must understand how difficult it would be for him to trust you again, or to forget the incident, and it might continue to be brought up, especially if you have an argument. 

He might even accuse the children of not being his, and so on. 

Therefore, if he forgives you, which is possible from a shar'i perspective, you must both navigate correct solutions to deal with the infidelity and how to avoid it in future, from both sides.

And Allah knows best
If a wife cheats on her husband by committing adultery with another man, would their marriage become invalid? If so, can they remarry after she repents?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

As we know, marital betrayal of this kind is a serious problem and a grave sin. Froma fiqhi perspective, she is still married to her husband, and although she committed zina, her marriage to her husband is still valid. She does need to repent, but she does not need to remarry her husband. 

And Allah knows best. 
Does a man need to divorce his wife if he committed adultery with another woman without her knowledge?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

He needs to repent and decide not to commit such crime again and seek forgiveness from Allah (SWT) but he does not need to divorce his wife.

Committing such major sin is strongly forbidden and condemned and the knowledge or no knowledge of his wife does not change the rule.

Wassalam.
What is the best way for a person to avoid the major sins, such as adultery?
Zoheir Ali Esmail

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. There are a number of strategies a person can employ to avoid sins, but the most important is to realise the reality of sinning. It is the knowledge of what sins really are, and their damaging effects in this world and the next that will keep a person away from any type of sinning. The more that knowledge increases, the more distant a person will be from sin until they reach a level of infallibility.

As for adultery a person should think about its ends in this world and the next and compare those ends to the fact that God has provided a halal and upright way for sexual pleasure. They should avoid all of the actions that are prerequisites to adultery such as attending the wrong kind of places and having the wrong kinds of conversation which will lead to such sins. They should be careful of their imagination as it is the imagination that makes the sin look better than it ever is. A factor of sin is anticlimax, as all sins are never as good as their imagination, whereas the reward of not sinning in the next world is better than anything that can be imagined.

May you always be successful