Marriage

Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a culturally and often legally recognised union between people called spouses. It establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between them and their children (if any), and between them and their in-laws. It is nearly a cultural universal, but the definition of marriage varies between cultures and religions, and over time.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

Husband is always responsible of the livelihood expenses of his wife unless she does not fulfill her duties as a wife.

‘Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

This will depend on what type of divorce was conducted. If it is raj'i (revocable), and within her 'iddah period, then they are husband and wife again.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Such a thing holds no significance or value. The second nikah will not nullify the first, and it is just meaningless to do so. These are unforetunately Western practicises of "renewing vows", and things like that, which a Muslim definitely does not need to do.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

This engagement period, between the nikah and the wedding (or rukhsati) is a limbo time, where you are not single anymore, but should not consummate the marriage. 

It is a time best used for getting to know each other. You will come to understand whether this is right decision, or not, and if any red flags, or something serious can be seen, calling things off before intimacy is by far better than after.

A very important point is the value of the zafaf night. The excitement of the wedding night, or zafaf night, is that the newlyweds become intimate for their first time, after waiting during their engagement, for this special night. 

They observe all the mustahab things to do, on this night, reciting the prayer and the duas, and the husband washing the feet of the bride, and everything else. 

It will be a memorable time for the husband and wife. 

Loyalty to parents is a very serious moral requirement both sides need to have. You do not want to violate this trust by doing that, knowing the parents from both sides expect you both to wait for that special night. Therefore, morally you both have an obligation to be patient and wait for the wedding night, to consummate the marriage. 

The strength of your commitment to each other is showing your high Akhlaqi standards to each other, and to your parents and parents-in-laws. 

Although you might consider it as "societal traditions", but it is a very good thing. Of course, couples should avoid long periods of waiting from nikah to rukhsati. It is not good at all to have long engagements. 

Let it be known that if one was to have sex during this time, it would technically be halal, and not considered as zina, but they have committed something morally wrong, unless their families both allow it, or in their specific culture, there is no zafaf/rukhsati, or such ceremonies.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answer updated 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

It does not matter what madhhab or ideology the girl's father may be, her family should absolutely be involved, and her father must give consent for the marriage to be valid. Unless, of course, she meets the requirement of "balighah/rashidah". 

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb, Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb has a BA in Law from Guilan University, Iran and has also undertaken Hawzah studies in Qom. He used to be a Cultural Affairs director of Ethics Group of Al-Mustafa... Answered 2 years ago

You have no obligation according to Fiqh standards. The matter of honesty and friendliness and... with your spouse is something else. You have to manage it according to her types of manners and how demanding she would be in future.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

Yes if the girl is virgin which means that she was never married.

'Wassalam.

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 2 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

No, there is no issue at all with doing nikah contract outdoors, or in morning. 

The only time it is makruh is when the moon being in the zodiacal sign of Scorpio (qamar fi al-'aqrab), and when the moon is absent (end of lunar month/beginning of lunar month), which is called al-mihaq

And Allah knows best

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

You need to take them to an authentic scholar who can explain for the the Islamic rules according to Ahlul Bayt (AS) and tell them that following Ahlul Bayt (AS) is much more important than following the culture or society.

‘Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 years ago

Istekhara is not obligatory in every situation. Istekhara is seeking guidance when you are unable to decide. If the matter was clear for you, then there is no need for Istekhara. Unnecessary Istekhara is not binding.

'Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answer updated 2 years ago

Lady Asma Bint Umays was the wife of Jafar Ibn Abi Talib (Jafar Al-Tayyar), the real brother of Ameerul Mo'mineen (AS) and she migrated with him to Abyssinia and remained with him till his return back to Madina in year 8 after Hijra then till was martyred in the battle of Mo'tah. She was the mother of Abdullah Ibn Jafar (husband of Lady Zainab Al-Khubra) and other children of Jafar Al-Tayyar. Abu Bakr proposed and married her.. After the death of Abu Bakr, Imam Ali (AS) proposed to her to look after the orphans of his brother Jafar Al-Tayyar. She had then a child from Abu Bakr called Muhammad ibn Abi Bakr who grew up in the house of Imam Ali (AS) and became one of the best believers and followers of Ameerul Mo'mineen (AS).

Wassalam.

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Mateen Charbonneau, Sheikh Mateen Joshua Charbonneau achieved a certificate from Harvard University in Islamic Studies. He undertook Howza classes under esteemed scholars since 2013 and has been teaching at Imam Mahdi... Answered 2 years ago

Both men and women should marry at a young age if possible