1. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims
  2. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

131 Questions

My father displays abusive behavior towards me and my family. He is physically and emotionally harmful, forced me to work inappropriately, and has had many issues leading to police involvement. Am I allowed to cut ties with him?
Amina Inloes

If you are living with him and want to move away, but are financially dependent, afraid to leave, etc., the best thing is to find someone reliable who understands your circumstances who can advise you on the practical options available. 

It would also be helpful to find someone whom you can discuss the psychological aspects of your situation with, since it can be difficult to leave an abusive situation, even for someone who is financially and socially independent. 

For instance, you could speak to a trusted adult with life experience, a counselor/psychologist, or a charity worker.

If you are in physical danger or being trafficked into illegal/dangerous jobs, this is especially urgent. 

Later, you can consider how you may wish to keep ties with your father. "Keeping ties" can mean many things and in abusive situations may mean keeping more distant ties.

There isn't a religious requirement to live in the same home or be in close contact, but sometimes it can be difficult to leave a situation for financial, cultural, psychological, or other reasons. 
Can a father not meet his child after having a Khula from wife and wait till he gets married and gets settled in his own life, as the child is in different country with her mother?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Islam does not allow anything which makes the child away from his parents. Cutting ties with any of the relatives is a sinful act, what about with the parents??

Even if the mother is divorced from the father, the rights of both of them on the child remain intact and both of them must maintain continuous contact between themselves child and his both parents. Father remains responsible to spend on his children till they are able to earn their livelihood.

Wassalam.
My father displays abusive behavior towards me and my family. He is physically and emotionally harmful, forced me to work inappropriately, and has had many issues leading to police involvement. Am I allowed to cut ties with him?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Not at all. Your father remains your father and you must keep respecting him and treating him in the best way even if he was a very bad person. Even if your parents were Mushriks (Polytheusts), you must treat them nicely as we read in Quran. (Sura Luqman ; 15).

Wassalam.
My father, a retired government employee in India, received 4 million INR upon retirement made up of 2 million as gratuity, 1 million from the provident fund, and 1 million for unused leave. What portion of this is subject to Khums?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Every saving which is owned for one year or more must be calculated for Khums. If the whole amount which he received on retirement was his right since one year more, then Khums is obligatory on the whole amount. If any portion of it was owned by him before less than one year, then no Khums on that portion until it completes one year in his own ownership or when his date of yearly Khums comes.

Wassalam.