Husbands: Express Love To Your Wife - Follow The Example Of The Prophet

The beauty of Ahl al-Bayt, is that if you follow their instructions, you will have the best marriage [Subhana Allah]. And Ahl al-Bayt, when they speak, it's not just talk. If you look at the marriage, Rasul Allah and Khadijah, this is a true love marriage.

We think that Bollywood and Hollywood, those are examples of love marriages. That's all rubbish! This is superficial.

A woman who gives everything for the mission of her husband, and she dies without enough money to purchase a kafan, this is love [Subhana Allah]. A woman who is willing to climb Jabal an-Nur, because she wants to give the food to Rasul Allah. Khadijah, she had servants, she could have sent someone up the mountain. But when Rasul Allah used to go to Ghar Hira, it was Khadijah that used to climb the mountains, to go and deliver the food. And Rasul Allah appreciated it. Rasul Allah love Khadijah very much.

There is an aspect of the Prophet's life and of the life of Ali, that some men, we ignore it, and that is that the men of Ahl al-Bayt, they were romantic with their spouses. Rasul Allah, salla Allahu alayhi wa alih, what does he say? [Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad wa Aali Muhammad]. He says: "inna ar-rajula la yu'jaru 'ala raf'a al-lukmati ila thimrati". Rasul Allah he says: Allah rewards a man for putting food in the mouth of his wife. They say Islam is not romantic. This small romantic gesture Rasul Allah says: Allah rewards you for it. Allah rewards you for it.

Why not express your love for your spouse? Rasul Allah, he says: "qul ar-rajul li 'l-mar'a inni uhibbuki la yadhabu mi qalbiha abada". Rasul Allah says when a husband says to his wife that I love you, these words, they do not ever leave her heart. Three words. Is it going to cost you? We are not saying to go take money out of your bank account. Three words!

Do you know how much impact it can have on your relationship? And don't say that my wife knows. He said I love you ten years ago, and he thinks that this "I love you" doesn't expire. One time and it is good for 50 years. You have to renew it. You have to reaffirm this love.

So being romantic with your spouse, verbalizing your love for them. Don't just say that my wife knows that I love her. Say it! Be affectionate! And be appreciative. If there's three pieces of advice that I can give to husbands, three things: be affectionate, be loving, express your emotions. Tell your wife that you love her, that she is dear to you.