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Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

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Is it allowed to keep a Mutah marriage confidential if her father and grandfather are deceased, but her mother and brother are alive? Does she need their consent in this situation?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done in secrecy. That is a big red flag. How will he maintain his respect to her, if she's gone behind her family's back and done the most important thing in her life, without telling her family.

As is most cases, the male will definitely use this in a way that he will not show accountability to her family, and many other wrong things. 

If she has not been married before, and even if she has been married, involving family is very important. 

And Allah knows best 
When scholars discuss marriage, such as in lectures, they often refer to a one husband and one wife model, akin to Western monogamous norms. Does this imply that Islamic polygamy has become irrelevant in contemporary discussions?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Islamic rules can never be irrelevant in any time or place. Islamic rules apply every where and every time according to its conditions  and the circumstances. Polygamy has its own conditions for those who need it. Western monogamy is just a claim when their own studies confirm that most of them have illegitimate affairs during marriage while Islam is frank and clear in dealing with matters by organizing a system to protect people from sinful sexual behaviour.

Wassalam.
My father insists that I marry a Sunni man, but I wish to marry a Shia man. What options do I have, as I feel helpless in this situation?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'āla

Your father has no right to insist or force anyone onto you. This is haram for him to do, and it is completely your choice, and he must respect that. It might be difficult for you to express yourself to him, and you might feel pressured, but do not give in, unless you are absolutely convinced on who you wish to marry, whoever he may be.

And Allah knows best.
Is remaining unmarried while maintaining chastity, while being Makruh, considered sinful and is a person who chooses this path subject to punishment?
Amina Inloes

It is not something that causes punishment in the hereafter, but often people are happier or more stable in life when they get married (even if it has its own challenges!).

If you are young and don't have an obvious reason not to get married, if an opportunity that feels right comes up, it's nice to at least try to explore the possibility of getting married, so you don't look back and feel like you missed out on something. But everyone has their own path in life and sometimes one path is not for everyone.