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Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

88 Questions

How can I find reassurance and strengthen my faith regarding my desire to pursue a Halal income on YouTube, despite fears of failure and concerns about Qadr, especially since I cannot share this with my mother due to potential consequences?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

The earning of Halal income depends on the nature of the business or the service. You must be sure that your business or service is really Halal, then you don't need to worry.

Wassalam.
Is it allowed to keep a Mutah marriage confidential if her father and grandfather are deceased, but her mother and brother are alive? Does she need their consent in this situation?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done in secrecy. That is a big red flag. How will he maintain his respect to her, if she's gone behind her family's back and done the most important thing in her life, without telling her family.

As is most cases, the male will definitely use this in a way that he will not show accountability to her family, and many other wrong things. 

If she has not been married before, and even if she has been married, involving family is very important. 

And Allah knows best 
How can I cope with my emotionally abusive mother, who favors my brother and causes me to feel angry and disconnected from my faith? I've tried speaking to her, but nothing changes, and I’ve stopped praying and fasting. What should I do?
Rebecca Masterton

There are now some coaches on YouTube that are very helpful in advising on how to cope with an emotionally abusive parent. In the household of a covert malignant narcissistic parent, children get assigned roles: the scapegoat and the golden child. To save you wasted years of your life, you will never be able to escape the role that you have been assigned. Even if your narc parent were to destroy your life, she would still find a reason to blame you for something or other, and play the victim.

You have to go 'no contact' or at least minimise contact as much as possible (minimal contact still counts as maintaining silat al-rahm - just at a safe distance). You will not be validated or have your true self seen by your mother, because she is invested in invalidating you. Instead, you have gradually accept that she will never be the mother you wanted and needed, and start to find yourself again and build your own life and identity independently of her. Don't share anything with her about yourself. Keep your life separate and private. If you are still living at home, it would be advisable to work on physically separating yourself and leaving the home.

Here is one coach and therapist who is a survivor of abuse himself: https://www.youtube.com/@narcabusecoach
Can a father not meet his child after having a Khula from wife and wait till he gets married and gets settled in his own life, as the child is in different country with her mother?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Islam does not allow anything which makes the child away from his parents. Cutting ties with any of the relatives is a sinful act, what about with the parents??

Even if the mother is divorced from the father, the rights of both of them on the child remain intact and both of them must maintain continuous contact between themselves child and his both parents. Father remains responsible to spend on his children till they are able to earn their livelihood.

Wassalam.