1. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims
  2. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

75 Questions

If a girl is certain that her father will reject a proposal from a pious and compatible boy due to non-Islamic cultural reasons, can they get married without informing him to avoid committing a sin?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

If she does not want to approach her father about this, she must try to find alternative ways to inform him and get his approval, like through elders, local scholars, etc. 

We must remember that in marriage, there are many surrounding factors that make it successful. One of them is harmony and blessings from parents. 

And Allah knows best
Is it permissible for boys and girls to play volleyball together on the same team or should they play on separate teams to avoid free mixing?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Mixing between boys and girls who are over nine years must be with full Hijab as an obligatory arrangement. Even with Hijab, it is not advisable to mix boys and girls in playing volleyball or any other game.
Wassalam.
What should I do if I am marrying a Sunni girl who respects and understands the Ahlul Bait, and her Sunni community is requesting their own Alim to officiate the Nikah?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

Although the Nikah could be valid, if the correct standards for Islamic marriage contract is observed, it is not a good sign if they "insist" on having their own 'Alim to do it.

If you choose to marry someone outside of your Madhhab, it is very important to have strong ability to manage things. You must be strong enough to have to deal with the issues that arise, regarding your Shi'i beliefs, your rituals, how the house is managed, and the future children.

There are good examples of a Shi'i marrying a Sunni, and both observe the highest level for each other's beliefs. That is how it should be. 

However, there are many bad examples and bitter experiences, which is why one must be extra cautious, and not just think about accepting their 'Alim to officiate the Nikah, but also what level of involvement, interference, influence, or intimidation they will have. 

Marrying someone from another madhhab is permissible only if one has assurance they will not be influenced, for them and the children as well.

And Allah knows best
Can an unmarried girl marry a pious compatible man, even if she knows her father will not allow it due to non-Syed status, in order to protect herself from committing sin?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

This is an issue in some countries among some people who think that cultural matters are to be followed in marriage.

I advise you to refer to your Marje’ Taqleed to seek his guidance.

Wassalam.