Mother

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Is it wrong for me to feel that as a wife, my primary duty is to my husband, and not necessarily to maintain a constant close relationship with my mother-in-law?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

No doubt, your primary duty is to your husband, but never cause your husband a harm or insult or disrespect through ignoring his family. Your positive attitude to your in-laws reflects on the life and happiness of your husband. Try your best to keep your husband happy and respected in his family.

Maintaing good relationship with your in-laws is part of the happiness and respect of your husband.

Wassalam..

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Mother . Health . Du'a (Supplication)

What supplications can I recite for my critically ill 39-year-old mother who is experiencing excessive blood loss and a decreased heart rate?

After applying medical instructions from the reliable specialists, you may recite: وإذا مَرِضتْ فَهُوَ يَشفين WA ITHA MARIDHTU FAHOWA YASHFEEN.

Also: YA WALIYYAL 'AAFIYAH NAS'ALOKAL 'AAFIYAH.

It is also very useful to recite Night Prayer (Salat Al-Layl or Namaz e Shab) every night and pray for your need.

Sadaqz and Ziyarat Ashura are also very useful.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Mother . Divorce

I am 14 years old and my parents are getting divorced. My mother wants me to stay with her and she keeps reminding me about the power of a mother's Du'a so that I would not hurt her feelings. How should I choose which parent to stay with?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 1 year ago

I am sorry that you are having to go through this at your age. Firstly, you should not have to choose to stay with any parent. Being pressured to stay with one parent or another today constitutes as emotional abuse. If you have a good relationship with your father, then you are not under any obligation to stay with your mother. The fact that she is using religion to threaten you and coerce you into staying with her is disturbing, and implies possibly a history of emotional manipulation. There are now many helpful videos on youtube on how to handle emotional manipulation by parents, such as 'The Cra**y Childhood Fairy' and Jerry Wise. Emotional manipulation can damage a child for life, so you need to learn to make sense of what is happening to you and how you can handle it effectively in a way that maintains your self-protection and healthy mental and emotional growth.

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Mother . Therapy

My mother isn’t very fond of me going to therapy although I have tried to explain to her multiple times I urgently need it. Can I go behind my mother’s back and seek therapy since I really need it even though she would be upset if she found out?

You should avoid anything which hurts your mother's feelings. If you find that therapy is really necessary for your health, then never let her know that you did something which she does not like you to do.

Wassalam.

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Man . Sunni . Woman . Mother . Sunni-Shi'a . Marriage

Is it permissible for me, a Shia man, to marry a Sunni woman when my mother disagrees?

Shia man is allowed to marry a Muslim woman from any Muslim sect as far as such marriage will not harm his faith and religious practice. If your mother is disagreeing, then you need to do everything you can to convince her and make agree without forcing her. You should never cause anything which hurts the respect or the feeling of your parents.

'Wassalam.

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Mother . Conversion to Islam . Christianity . Marriage

I am a revert planning to marry my non-Muslim soon-to-be husband next month. My mother is blackmailing me and I feel guilty for not fully adhering to Islam. Do I have any options in this situation?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 2 years ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

If you are a Muslim female, it isn't permitted to marry a non-Muslim man. Such a marriage wouldn't be valid. You should find a way to not listen to your mother if she is the one trying to force you to marry a non-Muslim.

May Allah grant you success

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Girl . Sunni . Mother . Sunni-Shi'a . Marriage

Is it permissible for a Shia girl, who has converted from Sunni Islam, to marry a Sunni boy solely for the sake of her mother's happiness, despite her awareness of the truth of her belief?

Marriage between Muslims from any Islamic sect is permissible in principle, but if you know that this marriage can harm your faith or religious practice, then you should avoid it because saving your faith and religious practice is more important than marriage. Your mother's happiness can not be through endangering your future. You should explain to her in suitable and polite way your situation and never allow such forced marriage if you feel that it can harm your faith or religious practice.

'Wassalam.

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Mother . Marriage . Istikhara

What should I believe when my own Istikhara for marrying a person came out positive, but my mother and her Peer's Istikhara came out negative?

No one is bound to follow the Istekhara of others even your parents because it was based on their intention not yours. You must always keep the respect of your parents and avoid hurting their feelings.

Wassalam.

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Mother . Income . Inheritance . Property

I have built a storey with my own money on top of my mother's two storey building. Do I need to share the income from it to other legal heirs, my sisters and brother, after my mother's death?

Yes. The storey which you built is on the top of your mother's building. Your mother has right in that storey. This right goes to her heirs after her.
'Wassalam.

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Mother . Scholars . Imam al-Mahdi

Was Imam Zaman's (as) mother Nargis, the daughter of a Roman king, or a maid from the region of Sudan? Are there different opinions abut this matter and which scholars subscribe to each?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 2 years ago

Both views are narrated. The story that she was the daughter of a Roman (Byzantine) king tends to be more popular, possibly because it is a more developed and engaging story.

This book offers a good discussion of the question. As you can see, it argues against the idea that she was a Roman princess on historical grounds.

https://www.al-islam.org/occultation-twelfth-imam-historical-background-...

Allah knows best.

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Hijab . Stepfather . Marriage . Mother . Grandparents

Is it obligatory for me to wear Hijab in front of my step-grandfather, who is the father of my stepfather, considering that my mother has married him?

Your stepfather who married your mother a fully consummated marriage is a Mahram for you and you don't need to wear Hijab in front of him. Same is his father.

Wassalam.

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Mother . Father . Family

My mother and I currently reside in a European country with access to Halal food. However, my father wishes us to move to a less favorable country for the sake of family unity. Considering that my mother can provide better for me, what should I decide?

Family unity is of vital importance. It sounds like there may be other issues here - more than that of halal food - possibly issues of balance of power between your parents. Why would your mother not want to be with your father? Is your father respected in the family? Do you have a close bond with him?