Husband

Bismihi ta'ala

It is not a sin for a couple to stay married and their marriage be loveless. Marriage is one thing, and love is another. However, a loveless marriage and a cold relationship is not ideal at all. It does affect both sides, and the household as well. Both husband and wife my strive to do something about their feelings towards each other and find ways of re-igniting their love towards each other. It is not healthy at all for them to stay loveless, and it will create a lot of toxicity between them. 

In any case, from a fiqhi perspective, if the wife chooses to stay in the relationship under such circumstances, it is not a sin.

And Allah knows best. 

Bismihi ta'ala

Nafaqah is wajib upon the husband, and any financial contribution the wife makes is solely out of her kindness and good will. She has no responsibility or duty added onto her towards the house, even if she is rich or earns more money. 

Yes, there would be a situation where she must contribute, and that is, for example, when she demands to live in a certain area or house that is more expensive, and she pledges to pay the additional amount. 

And Allah knows best. 

Bismihi ta'ala

If your husband lives in a different country, and you have given approval for that, and not objected, then this does not deprive the other wife from her right when you visit him. 

It would be good if the other wife forgoes her time during this period, and you have enough time to spend with your husband, but if she refuses, then she has that right. Unless, of course, such a condition was stipulated in your marriage contract, in which case the husband must abide by it. 

Whatever the situation may be, the main issue is whether or not it is good for you to be away from your husband for long periods of time, and when visiting him how much time you have with him. 

Nothing is more important than fairness and facilitating all the due rights of others.

With prayers for your success. 

Bismihi ta'ala

Although reciting a dua and praying for your husband would be a good thing to do, but it on its own will not eliminate the problem of alcoholism, him creating problems with those around him or his immaturity. 

You will need to seek intervention, by requesting his elders and even a therapist to instruct him on how to stop stop drinking and to improve his conduct. Such an individual should not be left to behave in this way, as it will certainly affect your marriage, and also your children as well, if you have children. 

His insecurities might be because he was spoiled from his childhood, or sees others as a threat to him, or whatever reason it may be. You must try to reassure him of his good qualities, and support him in what's challenging him, but you cannot do this all on your own. Speak to elders in the family, a professional counselor, and whoever else that can assist your husband in what he is going through.

With prayers for your success. 

Bismihi ta'ala

In Islam, masturbating is haram. If the woman is married, it is her husband's duty to satisfy his wife's sexual needs. It is very oppressive and selfish if he does not. We have numerous hadiths that mention this as well. 

If, for whatever reason, the husband is not fulfilling his duty and catering to her rights, it does not give her permission to do haram, and she must address this with her husband, or find other solutions.

And Allah knows best. 

Bismihi ta'ala

In my opinion, yes, I do think it would be a valid reason to reject a marriage proposal. Ultimately, what we aspire to achieve in marriage is living together and forming a family. 

Circumstances could arise during a marriage where a spouse must be away for a period of time, in which case consent from both sides is necessary. But if stay away from each other for long periods of time can be avoided, then that would be the best and healthiest thing to do. 

If it is unavoidable, and will be for years, and they cannot travel together, nor see each other, then a decision must be made that would be equally fair for both. Getting married and then immediately leaving your wife/husband for a few years is not an ideal situation to be in, and if it can be avoided, then that is best for both. 

With prayers for your success.