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It sounds like there are a lot of factors to take into consideration (including what country you want to raise your children in and their educational opportunities in each place).

I can understand not wanting yourself or your children to be around negativity towards your religion, especially if they are living in a country where Muslims are the minority, and it is already difficult to be a practising Muslim/raise children as practising Muslims. From that angle, since you would not be receiving religious support from your family, it is good to consider whether there is a supportive, healthy, and welcoming Muslim community there to offer support for yourself and your children, especially in teaching children about Islam in a positive and appealing manner.

Probably there are pros and cons to staying where you are, or moving. There may be some hidden blessings to moving there but also some challenges. So it is good to consider all aspects (financial, religious, educational, social, emotional, etc) and make the best decision.

Possibly this may be situational, for instance, if your mother is at an old age and if you are concerned that she will pass away while you are not present and you would regret that, that might be a factor.

There is probably no rush to make a decision and sometimes when we give something time, Allah decides for us by changing the circumstances of our life to go one direction or the other. When unsure, it is good to pray for guidance, as it often comes clearly.

In any case, silat al-rahm can be done regardless of where you live and does not require living nearby especially these days when travel and communications are much easier.

Bismihi ta'ala

It is your wajib duty to obey your mother, as long as she is not encouraging or forcing you to commit sin. She wanting you to live near her could mean she is still caring for you and loves you. It is just a matter of accommodating to her, compromising where you can, controlling your emotions, and also creating boundaries. 

With all the sacrifices you make for your mother, Allah ta'ala will certainly compensate in the best of ways.

And Allah knows best. 

You must tolerate and tolerate and keep on tolerating everything from you mother or father even if you feel that it is injustice done to you or others. You way we can annoy the feelings of our parents even if they are very bad persons like Kafirs as we read in Quran how we must deal nicely with Kafir parents (If your parents strive with you to worship with Me others, that of which you have no knowledge, then Do not obey them, but behave nicely with them in this world. ( Sura Luqman, verse 15).

Tolerate ill treatment from your mother or father for the sake of Allah and keep on seeking help from Allah to be a good son. Also pray to Allah to soften your mother's heart towards you and forgive her shortcomings.Quranic supplication says ( RABBANA EGGFIR LI WA LIWAAKIDAYYA WA LIL MO'MINEEN YAWMA YAQOOMUL HISAAB)(Sura Ebraheem, verse 41).

Wassalam.

Wassalam.

Wife's right in inheritance from her husband is definite whether she miscarried or not.

'Her share is one quarter of his wealth if he has no children from her or other wife, or one eighth if he has any child from her or any other wife.

Wassalam.