1. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims
  2. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

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Is it sinful if my parents physically hurt me or insult me over my choice in marriage?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

It is obviously sinful for any one to physically hurt or insult other person over his or her choice in marriage. If your choice in marriage was not against Islamic rules, no one is allowed to object or insult you. Your parents want you to be safe and happy, and you need to understand the reasons behind their stand against your choice. You should never disrespect your parents nor reply them back. If you are sure that they are been misinformed about your choice, you should clarify the facts for them.

You need to always be very polite with your parents and keep on praying for them.

Wassalam.
If a temporary marriage contract is to facilitate verbal communication only, can it be done without parental consent or would this situation fall under a different ruling due to the circumstances?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'āla

For the validity of the contract, for whatever reason it may be, the parent must give consent. It is also definitely the ethical thing to do.

And Allah knows best
Is it permissible to feel resentment towards one's parents if their reckless behavior is causing constant frustration?
Amina Inloes

Although it's more difficult to control feelings than to control actions, it's good to try to let go of resentment as much as possible since it only poisons you and does not help anything. It is better to focus on anything practical you can do that is best for the situation (if there is anything), and if there isn't anything you can do, try to focus on other things. 
 

Sometimes as we make our way through life, we get a better understanding of the psychological reasons why parents act in a less than ideal way and can have compassion for that, even if their choices were harmful to themselves, ourselves, or others. 
Is it Islamic for my parents to prevent me from marrying a Lebanese Shia man from a respectable and religious family just because of his nationality, despite our compatibility and my desire to make our existing relationship Halal?
Amina Inloes

Islam discourages racism and tribalism and encourages accepting any suitor who is mu'min and compatible. However people are complicated, especially when it comes to their expectations for their children's marriage and potential future descendants. I am sorry you have to go through that.