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My father divorced my stepmother and she then married another person. Would she be considered my Mehram?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

If the marriage between your father and her was consummated, she became your step mother and a Mahram for life even if she is divorced later on from your father.

Wassalam.
My in-laws say that I divorced my wife through voice message while I was in a drunken state and I did not remember doing that the next day. Is the divorce considered valid?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

If that really was the case, and you are a Shi'i Muslim, then the divorce is invalid and has no effect. 

There are numerous conditions for an Islamic divorce to occur, and from what you have said, none of them have been met. Therefore, she is still your wife. 

You do need to deal with your alcoholism. As a Muslim, you know of its severity and how spiritually, morally and socially damaging drinking is. 

With prayers for your success. 
I divorced my wife three times in one sitting out of anger and frustration. Does it count as one or are we now fully divorced?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

In Shi'i jurisprudence, divorce has multiple conditions and requirements. 

1. You must specify what type of divorce it is. 

2. She must not be in her menstrual cycle, and you cannot divorce her if you have been intimate with her, which means you must way until she finishes her next cycle. 

3. The divorce must be conducted in front of at least 2 highly-pious men. 

4. The divorce formulate must be recited in correct Arabic, in the correct form.

5. Only 1 divorce can be given, which means a three-fold divorce in one setting is invalid. 

If are angry, suppress your anger and do not allow your anger to overwhelm you. Divorce is not to be done out of anger, and it is not an easy thing to do. When you are angry, observe the Islamic etiquette of what to do, and stay calm. 

If you have not met these conditions, then you are not divorced.

And Allah knows best. 
My revert husband does not practice at all. He does say that he is still Muslim but does not behave at all that way. I am afraid that I may now be living in sin. Should I divorce him?
Seyed Ali Shobayri

Bismillah,

Asalamu alaykom, 

In regard to your husband, have you noticed that there is any particular reason why he has become non practicing? Is there any way you could possibly influence him or take him to someone that can? 

Divorce should be a last resort and as long as he says that he is still Muslim, your marriage would be valid. Also there is no sin upon you for the sins of your spouse. If however you exhaust all avenues and you find that such a marriage is lowering your faith as well, then you need to reevaluate whether this will be best for you in the long term. 

At the same time remember, one’s faith can go up and down so try to remain patient as this could be a test. Try to help you husband regain his faith and make constant dua for him. 

May Allah grant you success