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I am 14 years old and my parents are getting divorced. My mother wants me to stay with her and she keeps reminding me about the power of a mother's Du'a so that I would not hurt her feelings. How should I choose which parent to stay with?
Rebecca Masterton

I am sorry that you are having to go through this at your age. Firstly, you should not have to choose to stay with any parent. Being pressured to stay with one parent or another today constitutes as emotional abuse. If you have a good relationship with your father, then you are not under any obligation to stay with your mother. The fact that she is using religion to threaten you and coerce you into staying with her is disturbing, and implies possibly a history of emotional manipulation. There are now many helpful videos on youtube on how to handle emotional manipulation by parents, such as 'The Cra**y Childhood Fairy' and Jerry Wise. Emotional manipulation can damage a child for life, so you need to learn to make sense of what is happening to you and how you can handle it effectively in a way that maintains your self-protection and healthy mental and emotional growth.
I have been engaged to a noble and righteous woman, I find no flaw in her except that she has been divorced. I am reluctant to marry her because I feel as a virgin myself I deserve the same. What is the guidance of the scholars in this matter?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

If she meets the rights requirements of what Islam wants you to look for in a spouse, and there is compatibility between the two of you, and family members are all ok, you should marry her. 

Yes, she went through a divorce, but it should not make her any less desirable for you to marry. She could have gone through a test in her life, and as long as she carries the religious values and akhlaq you should looking for, then that is very good.

And Allah knows best
If a divorce is verbally revoked or invalidated by forgiving the wife within 3 months and 1 day prior to granting it, what is the status of the husband and wife's relationship? And what should be done if it is deemed invalid?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

This will depend on what type of divorce was conducted. If it is raj'i (revocable), and within her 'iddah period, then they are husband and wife again.

And Allah knows best
Has the Mutah marriage ended or is it still valid, considering that the man I engaged in Mutah with stated he "donates the rest of the time period" but now claims it was done in anger?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

If the man has willingly forfeited the remaining time of the Mut'ah marriage, then it has ended. If you both want to continue together,you need to recite a new Mut'ah marriage contract with fresh time and Mahr.

If he was not willing to end the Mut'ah and said what he said in anger with out meaning it,the Mut'ah remain valid till the end of the time or deliberate termination of the Mut'ah from him.

'Wassalam.