Obedience

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Transgressors . God (Allah) . Obedience . Dunya . Meaning

Does Allah intentionally will certain people to be transgressors since He says some people will disobey Him as the world will come to an end? Does that mean He wants them to disobey Him?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 years ago

Allah never wants any one to do wrong, on the contrary, He showed every one the right way and the wrong way and ordered and encouraged to do good and avoid bad. Allah granted human beings the intellect and the option to do whatever they decide to do and He never forced any one to do good or bad.

Wrong doers do wrong out of their own option and decision. Allah never wants wrong. He orders us to do good and He helps every one who to do good.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Obedience

As a 17 year old, can I disobey my parents, as long as my choices are Islamically allowed and with good intentions, due to the fact that I have my own thoughts and reasonings?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Although you are your own person, and you think independently, and might even be wise in your judgments, but this still does not allow you to disobey or defy your parents. It is always important to align your lifestyles and decisions along with what your parents would be happy with. If for some reason they dislike or refuse, negotiation is always better than showing insolence.

With prayers for your success.

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Husband . Obedience

My husband says I must obey him, but when I try and talk to him about what is bothering me about his action or treatment towards me and if I don't stop when he says so then he says that I'm disobeying and disrespecting him. What should I do?

Husband should give his wife all her rights as a wife and wife should also give her husband all his right as a husband. When you talk to your husband asking your rights, try you best to avoid any word which can hurt him or make feel disrespected by you. Select good words to convey what you want to tell him. If you see him starting to look annoyed,bayou should stop and postpone the matter. When you restart your talk, avoid those topics or words which can annoy him.

He should avoid harming or disrespecting you and you should avoid that as well.

Remember that your patience is a type of Jihad as the Hadeeth says: The Jihad of the wife is in being a good and tolerant wife.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Life . Adolescence . Obedience

As a Muslim teenager, can I disobey my parents' decision about how I should lead my life when I turn 18? Do they have the right to control my life?

Bismihi ta'ala

I am sure you know that in Islam, becoming an "adult" is not defined by turning 18 or 21. We see maturity to be reaching the age of taklif, where we become religiously responsible and accountable.

As Muslims, we also know that obedience to parents has no age limit, and we show our utmost respect and reverence to our parents, as old as we get. The status of parents is above everything, and that is why you should not see it to be "control" in the negative sense.

Parents have authority over us, and in most, if not all cases, they want the best for us. As we grow, we must increase in our level of obedience to our parents, and cater for them as much as possible. We show this to ourselves, and to our children, so our children will learn from us. When we get old, we wont need to struggle, because we have shown our children the right Islamic way of how to treat elders.

You must not disobey your parents, and always try your best to comply to their requirements and keep them happy with your behaviour and what you do. Please read about what our religion says about parents and the abundant reward we get in this dunya and akhirah when we show our obedience to them.

Of course, we are talking about normal situations, but if one's parents are indeed evil, abusive and negatively controlling, then that would need to be dealt with in a wise way.

With prayers for your success.

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Satan . Paradise . Hell . Obedience . God (Allah)

I understand that Satan was able to deceive Prophet Adam (as) in paradise, was Satan also able to see Hellfire and still chose to disobey Allah?

We don't have details whether Satan was able to see Hellfire or not but we know that he disobeyed Allah when Allah ordered him to prostrate to Adam. Satan was told that he and all those who will follow him will be in Hellfire (Sura 15, verses 42 and 43).

Wassalam.

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Parents . Hijab . Chastity . Clothing . Obedience

If one's parents like for them to appear beautiful by wearing clothes and Hijab in a way that attracts the eyes of men and women, would it be right to disobey them in this case if the daughter prefers complete chastity?

Bismihi ta'ala

There is a hadith that says:

لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالق

There is no obedience to a creation through disobedience to the Creator.

We cannot obey the laws of others at the cost of disobeying Almighty God. If hijab has been mandated by Almighty God, then we as His worshippers must comply to His law. So, we must not disobey God just to follow what someone else says, even if they are our parents whom we must obey. Our obedience to our parents is obligatory, but not in performing haram acts.

Clearly, in this case, the parents have a misconstrued approach to how their daughter should appear or conduct herself in public. They might be under the impression that by doing this, she will get married, but of course this is the worst way and its a very damaging approach.

The daughter should not comply with what her parents want, and respectfully decline, by explaining how unhealthy this approach is.

It's not just a matter of religion, but also on a human value and social level as well.

In Islam, attraction should not be by the gazing of onlookers, but by personality and moral qualities and righteousness.

With prayers for your success.

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Angels . Obedience . God (Allah)

Can angels disobey Allah?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 5 years ago

The Qur'an says that the angels do not disobey God and do as they are commanded (Qur'an 66:6). It is also narrated from Imam 'Ali (A) that the angels do not disobey or tire. From this, we can glean that the angels do not disobey Allah.

Possibly, angels may have the inherently capability to disobey but simply choose not to do so, because they have no reason to do it and no inclination to do it.

This is often understood as being because angels have intellect but no animal desires, unlike human beings, which have both intellect and animals desires, and usually it is either our bodily urges or related traits (such as anger) which cause us to do wrong.

The angels also have a greater awareness of higher realities (such as things pertaining to Allah) as well as the ugliness of some wrong acts, so perhaps this also may contribute to not wishing to do wrong things, unlike people, who are sometimes blind to these things.

For this reason, stories like that of Fotros can be considered questionable.

God knows best!

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Wife . Husband . Parents . Marriage . Obedience . Mutual Fund

Does a wife have to obey her husband like she has to obey her parents, or is a marriage more about mutual decisions and understanding?

This isn't strongly and clearly addressed in our tradition, and so there is a broad scope of interpretation.

From a jurisrpudential viewpoint, the main topic for obedience that is described is with respect to fulfilling the responsibility of the spousal bed, and anything else directly related to that.

Some people take a broader view.

Similarly, with respect to tafsir, some people take the word "obedient" (qanitat, 4:34) to mean a woman obeying her husband, others take it to mean a woman obeying God.

However it is worth considering that all of these elaborations on spousal obedience happened after the time of the Prophet and so there is some involvement of the author's cultural views.

In my experience, in practice, marriages tend to fit into two models - a "master-slave" model (where one person commands and the other obeys) and a partnership model (where the two work together and discuss things mutually). I find in general people tend to re-enact the model they saw growing up and to some extent that which is culturally common around them. For instance, some cultures are quite patriarchal, and this is sometimes reflected.

I have come to feel that this is one way where Islamic teachings are adaptable to a variety of ways of living and aren't wholly specific. However I am sure there are others who will give more specific views.

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Obedience . Husband . Spouse

In regards to obedience towards the husband, is his decision supposed to be dictatorial or one made after discussions with his spouse?

Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answer updated 5 years ago

as salam alaikum

a wife should obey her husband provided that he would guide her towards the best and according to obedience to Allah. There is no obedience to any creature that implies disobedience to the Creator.

Man has been given a major role in certain aspects of life, naturally and religiously. On the other side, to the woman belongs a leading role in other issues, naturally and religiously. Other roles, may be performed by both. A religious family should aim at achieving happiness in this world and the Hereafter. Members should help each other and sacrifice themselves for the sake of Allah.

Generally speaking, consultation should always be taken in consideration if possible, keeping in mind that the main focus is to please Allah and not to hurt each other.

With prayers for your success.

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Obedience . Islam . Wife . Husband

In regards to obedience in Islam, does a wife have to obey every single thing a husband tells her (within the folds of Islam) without any questions asked ?

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Father . Obedience

My father wants me to move with my family to Palestine before finishing university and getting a job in the United States. Is it Haram for me to disobey him and stay in the United States to complete my studies and be employed here?

You should always respect your parents and avoid making them feel insulted. No doubt, every man is free to decide where to study and where to work, but never cause insult or pain to your parents. Either you convince your father in a very polite way and get his real satisfaction, or obey his order. It might be difficult sometimes, especially when you think that your benefit is away from the choice of your parents, but be sure that Allah (SW) will grant you more success if you obey your parents.

Remember the promise to the Pious : (And whosoever fears Allah, Allah will get him a way from every difficulty and will grant him from unexpected source) Sura 65, Verse 2 and 3.

ومن يتق الله يجعل له مخرجا ويرزقه من حيث لا يحتسب ومن يتوكل على الله فهو حسبه

Wassalam.

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Obedience . Parents . Marriage . School

What exactly is meant by obedience to parents? Is this required in all circumstances such as marriage, school, etc? If not, how do we know the difference between when we can and cannot go against their wishes?

It is compulsory to do good to our parents and to deal with them in
the best possible way and to obey them when they order in any matter
which is in accordance with the rules of Allah (SWT) and not
otherwise.

A virgin girl requires the permission or the approval of the father or
her paternal grandfather for marriage.

Schooling, education, business etc. does not require the permission of
the parents but we should always keep in mind the maintaining of their
respect and happiness.

Wassalaam