1. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims
  2. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

24 Questions

What does Islam teach regarding a situation where a 24-year-old hits their mother back after she hits and verbally abuses them?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Hurting any of the parents is one of most dangerous major sins which lead to hellfire. If your parents hit you or verbally abuse you, you must tolerate and never do anything which can hurt their feelings. Allah is Angry with any one who makes his parents or any of them, unhappy.

Wassalam.
Is it permissible for a son to protect his mother by retaliating against his father who beats her severely? If not, what is the Kaffarah for such an act?
Sayyed Muhammad Husaini Ragheb

Salaam
In any case, children do not have the right to hit or even to raise their voices against their parents. Showing anger towards parents and shouting at them out of anger is forbidden let alone hitting them which will be punished by very severe and heavy punishment.
You have to only ask him to stop beating her and if you can become a block on the way of her getting hit then do it. But you have no right to hit your father back.
As for Kaffarah there's nothing mentioned in this regard. Just try to ask him for forgiveness in a polite manner so that he forgives you and try to make him happy. This way we hope that he changes his attitude towards your mother too.
How can I effectively separate myself from parents who are abusive and not practicing?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

You should never separate yourself from your parents, but you should be away from their sinful acts, keeping your relationship with them as good as you can. Even if your parent were non believers, you must keep treating them nicely as parents but never share with them or support their wrong faith or sinful acts.

Wassalam.
My father is very abusive and does not miss an opportunity to belittle me. I do everything he expects of me but I am really worried about how much more I can take. What should I do?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

No matter how bad, abusive and insulting your father is, you must tolerate and behave well with him. He is not worse that a Kafir parent, and we read in Quran and Hadeeth to treat non Muslim parents nicely and talk to them nicely.

Never alter  a word which can make him unhappy.

Be patient and tolerant whatever he says.

Your reward will be great iA.

Wassalam.