1. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims
  2. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

29 Questions

If a man is good in Deen and character, is it permissible for me to marry him if my parents oppose for cultural reasons, threaten to disown me after wedding, and make Duʿa that my marriage fails and my children turn out corrupt?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

As a virgin Muslim girl, you need your father's or your paternal grand father's approval for your marriage. If your father's refusal is based on un Islamic reasons, then you might try convincing him through your relatives of family friends who can talk to him. You should always keep the respect for your parents and never utter  a word which can harm their feelings. 
In case your father insists on rejecting for un Islamic reasons, you can refer to you Marje' of Taqleed and seek his advice or verdict after explaining your situation.

Wassalam.
As a teenage girl without the authority to refuse, I am concerned about attending my brother's upcoming wedding, which may involve Haram elements. I do not want to disobey Allah, but how can I manage this situation without upsetting my parents?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'āla

Have you expressed your concern about this to them? Have you spoken about not only how it is haram, but also how it will deprive them of barakah and tawfiq in their lives? Try your best to politely explain all of this, and remind them.

If they still insist on having haram elements in their wedding, I would recommend you attend only the essential parts of the wedding, so as not to create conflict and future problems for yourself, as he is your brother. You can then excuse yourself, once there are haram things. If anyone objects, or gets upset, that is for them. You cannot obey or please someone at the cost of disobeying and displeasing Allah ta'ala.

And Allah knows best
If a Muslim woman cannot display her beauty to non-Mahram individuals, including at mixed gatherings like weddings, then should she avoid attending such events? And if she does go, how should she present herself?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'āla

A believer must avoid free mix-gatherings, for whatever reason it may be, and as close as the non-mahrams may be. We must try to promote segregated wedding programs, and not allow ourselves to participate in haram gatherings.

This works for both genders as well. A man should not attend, and a woman should not attend as well. 

It is by far better for weddings to be segregated, so that the women can dress as they wish, without hijab or any restrictions. 

If someone is forced to be there, like the person being a primary family member, then they go just for the social obligation they have, limit it to that, dressed Islamically, and leave.

And Allah knows best
In Pakistan, where mixed gatherings at weddings are common, is it permissible for girls to wear culturally embellished dresses and makeup while adhering to proper Hijab?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Muslim female is ordered by Allah in Quran not to show her beauty to outsiders (Non Mahram). Sura An-Noor, verse 31. This order is for every time and everywhere with no exception.

May cultural practices are not accepted by Shariah yet done by some people out of carelessness or other un Islamic reasons.

Wassalam.