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My parents conducted Istikhara for a proposal that came out positive. Though my parents know the guy and his family, there is a 13-year age gap and I lack attraction towards him. As such, I am feeling uncertain, will refusing lead to future regret?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

You and your family should not rely on istikharah for making the decision of marriage. Istikharah should not be the primary tool to be used for marriage selection. 

The age gap that you mentioned is not really a major issue, and could be overlooked, if there is compatibility and commonalities and attraction towards each other.

However, as you said there is no attraction, and you do not have that certainty in this marriage proposal, then I would recommend you not rush into this, and not allow your parents to pressure you. 

You have every right to decline this proposal as well, and if you are doing the right thing, you wont need to regret in the future.

For marriage, the important thing is him being religious, having good morals, good reputation, and there being compatibility between you and him. 

Sit with him, once or twice, or even three times, and ask the right questions, especially about future plans and what your ambitions and goals are, and how his views agree with you or not, and then make your decision. Not based on istikharah, but based on the information you have.

With prayers for your success.
After performing Istikhara for marriage and receiving a negative result, is it permissible to repeat the Istikhara after 6 months?
Zoheir Ali Esmail

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. There is no problem repeating an istekhara if factors have changed or with a slightly different intention.

May you always be successful 
My parents got 4 Istekharas done that came out positive. I then got engaged and now, close to my wedding, my parents got Istekhara done again that has came out negative. What should I do?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Act upon the first Istekhara. No other Istekhara on the same matter unless there is a change in the matter.

Wassalam.
Is there any rule that at a given time we can do Istikhara for only one decision at a time? Can a single Istikhara be done for various matters?
Zoheir Ali Esmail

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. Istekhara doesnt have codified rules as it is one of the occult sciences. Rather, it has recommendations for best practice.

When istekhara is performed with the Qur'an or other means it is usually to clarify a situation and so if there are multiple matters that confuse the result of the istekhara then it would be wise to separate the matters and take separate istekharas for each. If there are lots of factors that a person wants to include in the intention and doesn't want to specify each one, but then uses a question that incorporates all of them while leaving the result of the istekhara clear that would be alright.

May you always be successful