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Bismihi ta'ala

Some parents or suitors choose to perform istikharah for marriage proposals, and that is their choice, and if they completely depend on the result of the istikharah, it should be respected. 

As the girl's father is her wali amr, and he turned to istikharah, their decision is going to be based on that, even though your istikharah turned out good. 

In this situation, you can proceed by having a conversation with her father, and trying to find ways of either doing another istikharah, or negotiating what would be best for both families. If he stands firm behind the result of the istikharah, then you must respect that, wish well for her and her family, and pursue another case for marriage. 

Also, please bear in mind that istikharah being good for a marriage proposal does not mean the marriage will be perfect and free of problems.

With prayers for your success.  

Don't overthink it - just do it - the whole idea behind it is that Allah is guiding you and you are not controlling the action yourself. Allah is merciful and will not deprive anyone of divine guidance due to details. 

Usually people have in mind which direction they will be counting and then do it, for instance if I am holding it with the main bead to the left, I have the intention I am counting that way before I proceed. 

Maybe someone here can post a video on YouTube or link to one (hint). 

 Bismihi ta'ala

At first, we must understand the practice of istikharah, when/how/where and why it is done. If we do not correctly understand the purpose and usage of istikharah, we will face problems. 

Marriage itself and pursuing a case for marriage is not something that should be dependent on istikharah. If you take the correct avenues, with having family and elders involved, and investigating and asking about the life and behaviour of the prospect spouse, then you are going to reach a conclusion. 

If you have prioritised the correct requirements for a spouse, in being religious, and in having high akhlaq standards, then the investigation and consulting with others will give you your answer. There would be no need to resort to istikharah

Istikharah would only be applicable if after everything you are still two-minded, and you need to seek divine intervention. 

In any case, it is not haram to go against an istikharah. Of course, it's certainly better to not disregard the answer given to you by istikharah, or why else did you turn to do it in the first place. 

If you did an istikharah, and it turned out against what you deeply wanted, and you wish to pursue it, then pay some sadaqah, allow some time to pass, change the circumstances, and then decide whether you wish to pursue it, or do another istikharah.

Always bear in mind that just because istikharah came out good, does not mean your marriage will last. You still need to be all your effort in keeping a marriage, and maybe it is God's fate for you to go through whatever is destined for you. That's why the best thing is always to make sure your spouse selection is based on the solid criteria recommended by Islam. 

With prayers for your success. 

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. If there is an aspect in which your intention for the istekhara has changed you can take another istekhara with that modified intention.

May you always be successful