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In the name of Allah

The answer is Yes.

When You breastfeed someone else's child (with all the conditions that will be mentioned below) That child is basically like a child of Your own. So he/she will be Mahram to:

  • You (Breastfeeding mother), your parents, your grandparents and so on, your siblings, your aunts and uncles.
  • Your husband (Breastfeeding Father), his parents, his grandparents and so on, his siblings, his aunts and uncles.
  • Your Children (current and future), your grandchildren and so on.

But what are the conditions for breastfeeding to result in Mharamiyyat?

1. The child should suck the milk from the breast. So if the milk is poured into the child's mouth, it doesn't count.

2. The child should be under two years of age.

3. The milk should be the result of a Halal relationship.

4. The Child should not throw up the milk. If so, it doesn't count.

5. The quantity or duration of breastfeeding should be either of these:

  • Enough so that his/her body would grow due to that milk.
    (Grow: muscles/meat are created or bones will be strengthened)
  • 15 times in a row. (without any other food or milk from another woman)
  • 24 hours straight. (without any other food or milk from another woman)
     

WasSalaam.

Yes it is allowed. She is like his cousin, so marriage is permissible between them.

Wassalam.

I am sorry to hear you have to go through that. I am sure that is very upsetting.

Well, it is not as if God is going to punish you or send you to hell because your mother is cursing you while she is drunk. However, it isn't healthy to have that kind of negativity directed towards you, so if there is anything you can do to provide a more positive and spiritually/personally uplifting environment around yourself (for instance, listening to Qur'an on headphones), it might help deal with some of the negativity.

Also if possible it might be good to find people who have life experience and who can offer good advice (such as a relative or school/university counselor, if you are at an age where you are going to school/university) to discuss your future with, since it is easy to internalize negative ideas, particularly if our parents are telling them to us, and it might be healthy to be hearing a more positive voice about what you can do and how to aim for it. 

Her behaviour when she is not sober has not effect on you nor you are responsible. Try to treat her well as a mother and pray for her guidance.

Wassalam.