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Are there any Mujtahids who allow an independent virgin woman to marry without her father's permission?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Virgin girl does require in her marriage the permission of her father or her paternal grand father. If father and the paternal grand father refuse proposal of marriage with out valid Islamic reason when the proposal is from a Kof’ (Compatible believer) and the girl needs to marry to save herself from sin, then the condition of the father’s permission or paternal grand father’s permission will not remain. That is when the refusal of the father or his father is not based on a valid Islamic rules.

Wassalam.
Is it allowed to keep a Mutah marriage confidential if her father and grandfather are deceased, but her mother and brother are alive? Does she need their consent in this situation?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done in secrecy. That is a big red flag. How will he maintain his respect to her, if she's gone behind her family's back and done the most important thing in her life, without telling her family.

As is most cases, the male will definitely use this in a way that he will not show accountability to her family, and many other wrong things. 

If she has not been married before, and even if she has been married, involving family is very important. 

And Allah knows best 
Is a young boy, born to his father's second wife who is Sunni, still considered a Sayyed if his father is a Sayyed, despite believing he is not due to his mother's Sunni background?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

If his father is a Sayyed, he will be a Sayyed as well just like his father.

Wassalam.
My father displays abusive behavior towards me and my family. He is physically and emotionally harmful, forced me to work inappropriately, and has had many issues leading to police involvement. Am I allowed to cut ties with him?
Amina Inloes

If you are living with him and want to move away, but are financially dependent, afraid to leave, etc., the best thing is to find someone reliable who understands your circumstances who can advise you on the practical options available. 

It would also be helpful to find someone whom you can discuss the psychological aspects of your situation with, since it can be difficult to leave an abusive situation, even for someone who is financially and socially independent. 

For instance, you could speak to a trusted adult with life experience, a counselor/psychologist, or a charity worker.

If you are in physical danger or being trafficked into illegal/dangerous jobs, this is especially urgent. 

Later, you can consider how you may wish to keep ties with your father. "Keeping ties" can mean many things and in abusive situations may mean keeping more distant ties.

There isn't a religious requirement to live in the same home or be in close contact, but sometimes it can be difficult to leave a situation for financial, cultural, psychological, or other reasons.