1. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims
  2. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

27 Questions

During Ramadan I intentionally broke my fast 5 times because I was angry and uncomfortable and felt that I do not need to fast. Do I have to do anything else other than making up the missed fasts?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

You must do Qadha and also do the Kaffara of deliberately breaking the fast which is either fasting two months continuously or feeding sixty poor believers for every day of broken fast. You also need to seek forgiveness for that sin.

Wassalam.
I tried advising my father to be nice to my mother after he was rude to her. I did not intend to upset him but he still got angry. Will his anger affect my life? What can I do to protect myself if he gets angry again for no reason?
Rebecca Masterton

You may want to look on youtube at videos on narcissistic personality disorder. Rages can be a symptom of that. There are coaches on-line that teach you how to protect yourself. I can recommend Dr Ramani, Anna Runkle, and Dr Daniel Fox. Look up the 'grey rock' method. Also be careful that you are not being used emotionally by your mother as a 'flying monkey', or that you are being 'parentified' (i.e. your mother is the child and you are the parent that feels you have to protect her). Not saying that this is happening, but it is something to be aware of.
I am having abusive thoughts about Allah whenever I pray. I have recited A'udhubillah many times but it is still happening. I have cried a lot and don't know what to do. Is Allah angry with me?
Amina Inloes

Sorry to hear about your situation.

Allah is not angry with you. You sound like you are sincere and have a good heart, and these are the things that are important. Sometimes these thoughts pop up by themselves, or sometimes they are from shayateen. The best thing to do is just let the thoughts come and go on their own and remember that Allah does not blame us for things that are outside our control. Sometimes when we try not to think something, we end up thinking about it more. Also just do the salat as best as you can. You could also see if praying in a different location (like mosque, workplace, park, friend's house, etc) helps.

If you have some specific reason why you are upset with Allah (for instance, some people are upset when they lose a job, divorce, etc., as they blame Allah), this is something that is good to work through personally and spend some time sitting with Allah and doing dua or contemplating about to make peace about. 

We have lots of ups and downs in our religious life, inshallah you will get through this too. 
If I haven't see my mother in my dream after her death, while she has appeared in the dreams of other relatives, does that indicate her anger at me?
Amina Inloes

No - some people remember their dreams better than others or are more open to these things. Also you can't be sure that other people's dreams are actual communication, although sometimes you get an idea one way or the other.

Inshallah she would not have reasons to be angry to you after she has passed on - many things we are angry about in life become unimportant once we are not dealing with the material and social realities of this world. Allah also says in the Qur'an that He will remove bad feelings from people's hearts in jannah.

However if you are concerned that she is angry at you, you could pray that she forgives you.

Sorry to hear about your loss.