1. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims
  2. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

133 Questions

I am getting married in secret without the knowledge of my parents. Will I need my father's permission or will my father need to be present during the Nikah?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Virgin girl does need her father's permission for her marriage if her father is a Muslim and does not reject the marriage for un Islamic reasons. Your father does not need to attend your Nikah but he must agree on it if it is your first marriage.

There are certain cases when this condition becomes void like when you need the marriage to save yourself from sinful act, and your father is refusing the marriage for reasons which are invalid in Islam.

Wassalam.
I tried advising my father to be nice to my mother after he was rude to her. I did not intend to upset him but he still got angry. Will his anger affect my life? What can I do to protect myself if he gets angry again for no reason?
Rebecca Masterton

You may want to look on youtube at videos on narcissistic personality disorder. Rages can be a symptom of that. There are coaches on-line that teach you how to protect yourself. I can recommend Dr Ramani, Anna Runkle, and Dr Daniel Fox. Look up the 'grey rock' method. Also be careful that you are not being used emotionally by your mother as a 'flying monkey', or that you are being 'parentified' (i.e. your mother is the child and you are the parent that feels you have to protect her). Not saying that this is happening, but it is something to be aware of.
I have a suitor that is a good practising Muslim but my father does not want to give my hand in marriage due to tribal reasons. What is the Islamic solution for this problem?
Amina Inloes

Sorry to hear that - it can be difficult to find a good spouse, and a family is blessed when someone suitable wishes to marry their child; not everyone has the opportunity to marry a compatible spouse. 

In addition to the advice already given, du'a is also good.
I have a suitor that is a good practising Muslim but my father does not want to give my hand in marriage due to tribal reasons. What is the Islamic solution for this problem?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Marriage in Islam is based on proper religion and good manners, and not on tribal or economic or any other worldly reason.

Your father might have his own cultural reasons for marriage which are not valid in Islam. You must be very polite with him and try your best to explain to him the teachings of the Prophet (SAWA) and AHLUL BAYT (AS). 

You might need to seek assistance from people who are respected by your father to explain to him.

You might need to wait till your father is convinced.

You might also seek help from your mother to try to talk to convince him in nice way.

Wassalam.