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Everyone has different methods of self-growth, different approaches to life, and philosophies. Sometimes, someone that may be intent on following a certain path, or programme of self-development, may not see the limitations of that approach from the perspective of their spouse, who cannot follow the same programme, due to the limitations that they see, or issues with the approach.

I am not saying that this is your situation, but I have seen it in some cases. Be careful not to alienate your spouse in focusing upon your inner work, as marriage is also a part of that inner work. The challenges between two people are often what actually forces a person to grow, and to mature.

The danger comes if someone actively tries to undermine you. That is a totally different situation, and would call into question the foundation of the marriage, but if they are allowing you space, even though not actively on the same page as you, then you can work towards what you have in common as friends and allies.

There needs to be a balance between both people: both allowing some space for the way the other person is, while also bearing in mind each other's obligations.

Don't expect them to follow your programme - perhaps they have a viewpoint that could be beneficial to you, which you can't see at the moment.

These are just suggestions, as I don't know your personal situation.

Quranic verse are very clear in ordering the believers not to mention any thing which can hurt the feelings of a believer or might cause disrespect to him. Discussing marital intimacy or seeking clarification about one's spouse must not cause any harm or disrespect or annoying the spouse in any way.

Wassalam.

In such case, she needs to request some one who is able to pronounce Arabic letters to recite it on her behalf.

Wassalam.

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. There is no problem in praying for that but just don't let it become a barrier to suitable partners when looking for perspective spouses. May Allah grant you all of your lawful desires.

May you always be successful