Sexual

194896

Is male medical castration permissible if a wife has refused intimacy for a year? I fear divorce and losing my son but feel unloved and lacking in confidence. What are my options?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 11 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

No, it is not permissible.

If wife refuses intimacy, this is haram for her, she become nāshizah, and it is grounds for divorce, if she persists.

Why would you lose your son. Sharing custody, and being civil about it is very important and to the benefit of both sides.

Marriage counselling and mediation is also very important.

And Allah knows best

194876

Sexual . Haram . Marriage

How can someone manage intense sexual urges while fearing Haram actions, especially when they feel unprepared for marriage and do not wish to pursue temporary marriage as an option? What are appropriate ways to cope with these feelings?

Bismihi ta'āla

If one feels they are "unprepared" for marriage, then should work on preparing themselves, and make that their fundamental priority. Nothing is better than getting married.

Pursuing temporary marriage is not going result in long-term solution, so it is good they do not wish to pursue it.

Sexual lust is natural, given to us by Allah ta'ala for many benefits. We just need to regulate it, and control it when needed. We are all prone to becoming weak in our self-control, and Shaytan could overcome us. However, with jihad al-nafs, and resisting haram urges, one will see wonders.

Strong focus on acts of worship is one effective method of coping with lust, especially prayer and connecting with the Lord.

Avoid anything that leads to rising of lust, like what you see, or hear. Try to fast, as the Prophet (s.a.w.) advised.

Occupy yourself with various activities. Try not to be alone, and interact with family members more.

The element of dua is also very important. Immerse yourself in supplications, beseeching Allah and imploring Him to keep you pure, and grant you a righteous spouse.

And Allah knows best

194633

Ghusl . Sexual . Doubt . Sawm (Fasting)

I have been uncertain about my Ghusl and consider repeating my Ghusl and keep questioning my fasts. What is the best course of action for me in this situation?

Bismihi ta'āla

You must completely ignore and dismiss these thoughts of doubt. The best course of action to rid yourself of waswasah, or developing waswasah is to dismiss these thoughts and ignore them, and never repeat what you have done.

And Allah knows best

194156

Makruh . Sexual

Is ejaculation in the mouth of the wife permissible if not ingested or consumed by her? If allowed, is it classified as Makruh?

Bismihi ta'āla

Yes, it would be allowed, as long as what is mentioned is observed.

No, it would not be classified as makruh.

And Allah knows best

194196

Makruh . Sexual

Is it allowed to be fully naked with your spouse during intimacy? If allowed, is it considered Makruh such that it should be avoided?

Bismihi ta'āla

Yes, it is allowed, but jurists include it as one of the makruh things to do when with spouse. Some jurists also said that this is specific to the man. He can still have a top on, or cover himself with something.

One view is that this at a time that the intention to copulate is for conceiving a child, where all mustahab and makruh things should be observed, as angels could attend, and out of shyness to the angels. This view is based on a hadith from Imam al-Sadiq (a.s.), from the Prophet (s.a.w.).

And Allah knows best

193551

Sexual . Islamic medicine

Is there any mention of a cure for premature ejaculation (PE) and erectile dysfunction (ED) in Islamic teachings?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 11 months ago

Premature ejaculation (PE) is a common concern for millions of men and their wives, and while it can be a sensitive topic, Islamic teachings emphasize the importance of health, well-being, and mutual satisfaction in marital relationships. Here are some Islamic perspectives and guidance that may help: 1. **Understanding and Patience**: Islam encourages patience and understanding between spouses. It is important for both partners to communicate openly about their concerns and feelings. Recognizing that PE is a common issue can help reduce anxiety and stress. 2. **Seeking Knowledge**: Islam places a high value on seeking knowledge. It may be beneficial to learn more about the causes of premature ejaculation, which can be psychological, physiological, or a combination of both. Understanding the issue can help in finding effective solutions. 3. **Consulting Professionals**: Seeking medical advice from a qualified healthcare professional is encouraged. Islam supports seeking treatment for health issues, and there are various therapies and techniques available to help manage PE. 4. **Dua and Prayer**: Turning to Allah in prayer (dua) for help and guidance is an important aspect of Islamic practice. You can ask for strength, patience, and solutions to your challenges. 5. **Strengthening the Relationship**: Focus on building intimacy and emotional connection with your spouse. Engaging in non-sexual forms of intimacy can help strengthen the bond and reduce performance anxiety. 6. **Techniques and Practices**: There are various techniques that can help manage premature ejaculation, such as: - **Behavioral Techniques**: Methods like the "stop-start" technique or the "squeeze" technique can help in gaining better control. - **Mindfulness and Relaxation**: Practicing mindfulness and relaxation techniques can help reduce anxiety and improve sexual performance. 7. **Healthy Lifestyle**: Maintaining a healthy lifestyle through proper diet, exercise, and avoiding excessive stress can contribute to overall sexual health. 8. **Education on Sexual Health**: Understanding sexual health from an Islamic perspective can help couples navigate their sexual relationship more effectively. There are many resources available that discuss sexual health in the context of Islam. 9. **Consulting Religious Scholars**: If you have specific concerns about how to approach this issue within the framework of Islamic teachings, consider consulting a knowledgeable religious scholar who can provide guidance based on Islamic principles. Remember, every couple is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Open communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to seek help can go a long way in addressing concerns related to premature ejaculation.
‘Wassalam.

193391

Wife . Husband . Marriage . Sexual

Can a wife refuse her husband's second marriage if he denied her marital rights, had an affair, is unwilling to live with her, and she also wants separation before he remarries?

There are conditions in Islam for those who need more than one wife, with out fulfilling these conditions, they are not allowed but just one wife as we read in Quran (But if you fear that you shall not deal justly with more than one wife, then just one wife) (Sura Annisaa', verse 3).

If the husband is dealing with his wives justly and giving every wife her rights equally, none of wives has a right to object on his second marriage. She does not have a right to ask for separation or Talaq as far as he is giving her rights equally with practical justice.

If the husband is committing wrong or injustice, she can complain with authentic evidence to the Marje' of Taqleed.

Wassalam.

193106

Sexual

Are Viagra pills permitted to be used during sexual activity?

Viagra pills or any other medicine are allowed to be used as far as it does not have major harm on your health and it does not contain any non Halal ingredient.

Wassalam.

192062

Husband . Sexual . Wife . Resentment

What should I do if my husband’s sexual performance has been lacking for over four years, causing me to feel resentful, frustrated, and miserable?

1. This is a critical matter which should be dealt with with top care and secrecy. If this matter is dealt with in a wrong way, it can harm your relationship with your husband and it can lead to bigger problems.

2. You must be be careful in talking about this matter with your husband and avoid disclosing it to any one side even from your near relatives who know your husband.

4. Be frank with your husband in talking about this matter and make him think that you need his advice and never compliant against him.

5. Both of you need to discuss the possible reasons to try to avoid its factors.

6. You both can seek medical advise to both of you as partner in the matter.

7. You should be content with whatever is oossible along with your efforts to imporove.

Wassalam.

192874

Sexual

Is it considered allowed if pre-cum enters the mouth during oral sex?

Bismihi ta'āla

In shar'i terminology, the fluid that excretes from sexual arousal is called madhi, and it is tahir. Only semen is considered najis.

And Allah knows best

192343

Woman . Sexual . Man

Is it permissible to use a sex toy during intercourse with my partner who has high sexual desires? And is it allowed for the wife to penetrate her husband for pleasure using such a toy?

Using sex toys is not permissible, although husband and wife are allowed to enjoy themselves between themselves using their bodies but not other items like sex toys etc.

Wassalam.

192092

Husband . Wife . Sexual

If the husband is fairly certain that penetration has occurred during foreplay but the wife is sure that it has not, how can they resolve their understanding?

Every one from them should act according to his knowledge. If husband is fairly sure that penetration has occurred, he then needs to perform Ghusl of Janabah because by penetration, he has become a Mujnib. If the wife is sure that penetration did not occur, then she is not in Janabah because of that foreplay unless she reaches to orgasm.

Wassalam.