Father

A father is the male parent of a child. Besides the paternal bonds of a father to his children, the father may have a parental, legal, and social relationship with the child that carries with it certain rights and obligations.

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Mother . Father . Pregnancy . Breastfeeding

For the birth of a child, the mother seems to have a much greater contribution compared to the father such as the months of pregnancy and breast feeding. Why is it then said that the child belongs to the father?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 6 years ago

Child does not belong to the father only but belongs to both father and mother. Father is fully responsible for all livelihood expenses of the child and the mother, while mother is not responsible to spend on the child even if she is rich.

The Prophet Muhammad has ordered every one to look after his mother, his mother, his mother, then his father.

In the unfortunate situation of separation between father and mother, mother has the right of custody during the childhood years ( 2 years for boy and 7 years for girl) then custody will be for the father.

Wassalam.

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Father . Hijab

What is the ruling if your father wants you to go visit relatives where the ladies do not observe Hijab and people are not particular about gender interaction rules?

If you are sure that you visiting such relatives will definitely make
you fall in to sinful acts like shaking hands with the opposite gender
or eating or drinking Haraam food, then you should not visit them

If such sinful acts are not there but the female members who are
not wearing Hijab will come in front of you, you can avoid looking at them by lowering your gaze.

Wassalaam.

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Father . Marriage . Sayyid

As there is no caste system in Islam, is there any sin for a Syed or Khoja father who disallows his daughter to marry a young man who is a suitable match in all aspects except that he is not a Syed or Khoja?

It is against the teachings of the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) to create a condition in marriage which was never put by Islam. Caste condition is simply un-Islamic .

Delaying the marriage of a female who needs marriage, for no real Islamic valid reason is a sinful act.

The Infallible Imams were from Bani Hashim yet they got married to pious ladies out of Bani Hashim and even out of their language and culture. There is no question of caste in marriage in the teachings of Ahlul Bayt (AS).

The authetic Prophetic Hadeeth says very clearly : If marriage proposal comes to you from a person whom you accept his faith and manners, you should accept it, otherwise the earth will be corrupted with Dispute and wide spread evil.

إذا جاءكم ٬من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوه ، إن لا تفعلوه تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد كبير.

Wassalam.

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Qadha . Father . Salah (Prayers)

How do I perform Qadha prayers for my deceased father that he missed due to illness? Can I do them at any convenient time, or only at the prescribed times for each prayer?

Qadha Prayers can be performed at any convenient time, and not necessarily at the prescribed times of each Prayer.

Wassalam.

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Father . Prophet Ya'qub

How was Prophet Yaqoob (as) a good father, and what were his characteristics that fathers of today should follow?

Prophet Yaqoub (AS) and all the prophets are Infallible. He was victimized by some of his sons who felt jealous about their bother Yousuf and they did what they did which caused Yousuf and his father Yaqoub lot of pain for long time.

There are many points mentioned in books of Tafseer of Quran about Yaqoub which can guide fathers how to deal with their children.

I will try to take time to brief some of these points in the future Insha Allah.

Wassalam.

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Children . Philosophy of Religion . Father

Why does a newborn child ought to inherit the religion of his father or parents in general? Shouldn't it be their own choice and calling rather than become a hereditary conditioning?

Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 6 years ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. Every person is free to choose the religion they would like to follow, however, it is natural that parents will have an influence in the decision of their children and this is why many children choose the religion that their parents adhere to. At the same time it is important for parents to teach their children to follow what is right and so Islam is against hereditary conditioning. But if the parents are able to effectively communicate the beliefs, ideals and ethics of Islam to their children then that is a great bounty of guidance for the children and the children can then develop those understandings for future generations, choosing to follow Islam with the education that their parents gave them from their own life experience.

May you always be successful.

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Father

Are you supposed to apologize to your father after an argument regardless of you not doing anything wrong?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 6 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

You should not be "arguing" with your father in the first place. As Muslims we are taught to be obedient to our parents. Yes, we can discuss, and might disagree, but it should never escalate to a level where we argue, or be disrespectful in any way. It is for this reason that if someone does get to this stage of arguing with a parent, they must give in, apologise, and seek forgiveness from the parent.

With prayers for your success.

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Marriage . Father . Consummation

If a woman is divorced but still a virgin because the man never asked to consummate the marriage, can she marry again without the consent of her father?

She is still virgin and needs consent of her father or paternal grandfather for marriage.

Wassalam.

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Muslims . Mother . Christians . Father . Baptism

Can a Muslim congratulate and participate in the baptism ceremony for a baby whose mother is Christian and the father is a Muslim?

Muslim is not allowed to attend or take part in any non Muslim religious ceremony.

The child mentioned in your question is a Muslim because of his Muslim father. Islam says that any child who is born from Muslim father or Muslim mother, is a Muslim.

الولد يتبع أشرف الأبوين

There is no question of baptism ceremony for a Muslim child.

Wassalam.

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Father . Marriage . Stepfather

I got married several years ago but only sought permission of my stepfather (mother's husband) because my biological father has removed himself from my life since childhood. He now knows about my marriage and has no objection. Is my marriage valid?

Yes, your marriage is valid.

Your stepfather has no say in your marriage. If you were virgin (first marriage) you needed permission of your biological father if he has not removed himself from your life.

Even after marriage, if your biological father who looks after you agrees, the marriage is valid. In any way, according to what you have written, your marriage is valid.

Wassalam.

Mohammad Al-Musawi

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Marriage . Father . Mut'a (Temporary marriage) . Children . Pregnancy

If a woman gets pregnant in mut'ah marriage, can she get the rest of the period waived off from the father of the unborn child and marry another man before the baby is born?

No, she can not.

If a pregnant woman is divorced or her Mut'a marriage has finished or terminated, her Iddah (waiting period) goes on till the end of her pregnancy. She will not be allowed to marry any one else before she delivers her baby.

Wassalam.

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Children . Sin . Father . Divorce

Will my four children sin if they only look after me instead of their father who I have divorced?

Bismihi ta'ala

When parents go through a divorce, the worse thing is to involve the children, or God forbid, poison them against any side of the parents or their family.

Children should never be dragged into such problems, and must be kept neutral. They have an obligation towards their parents, and must honour and respect them both.

It is equally healthy for the children to have access to both parents, and this will be something very positive for their upbringing.

If things are bitter between you and your ex-husband, suppress your anger and show them the better path by pushing them towards their father as well.

If you in any way prevent your children from having a relationship with their father, then you are committing a sin and doing wrong to them more than anyone else. If your children themselves do not want to interact or contact their father, then they will be sinning, and you must encourage them to maintain a relationship with their father. They must stay as committed and loyal to both parents as much as possible, and this is something wajib.

This is of course in normal cases where the children are safe, and there is no justifiable reason for them to stay away from their parent. In the case of there being a legitimate shar'i reason for them to be distant from their parent, the situation would be different and it should be dealt with in a different manner.

Wassalam