Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, she would need to make up those days missed, but there is no sin. 

And Allah knows best

Bismihi ta'ala

Khums must be paid in its due time, without delay, and one must fulfil what is in their dhimmah, so as to not fall in sin and to make what they purchase from that due money halal and not usurped. 

The solution to this, if someone is not able to pay the complete amount or any amount in its due time is to do what we call a Muṣālaḥa.

A Muṣālaḥa is a mutual agreement and solution agreement between the mukallaf and the Marja' taqleed or his wakeel. 

What happens is the mukallaf speaks to his/her Marja' or his wakeel, and explains that they cannot pay their due khums, and it is transferred in a technical way from khums to a long-term or short-term loan. The mukallaf will then be responsible to honour the loan and it is to be given whenever they are able to.

By doing this, the mukallaf will be free of khums payment until that time, and their money will be halal.

So, best thing to do is to speak to the local wakeel of your Marja'.

And Allah knows best

Bismihi ta'ala

There are views that Imam Musa al-Kadhim (a.s.) was born on the 7th of Safar, and that this day was also mentioned as the date of the martyrdom of Imam Hasan al-Mujtaba (a.s.). The different views on the martyrdom date of Imam al-Mujtaba (a.s.) can be discussed another time, so we will focus on the birthday of Imam al-Kadhim (a.s.) and the different views. 

Firstly, early scholars like Sheikh al-Kulayni, Sheikh al-Mufid and Sheikh al-Tusi did not really clarify this issue. They did mention the date of Dhil Hijjah.

It is said Imam al-Kadhim (a.s.) was born in the year 127 AH (or 128, or 129 AH), in an area by the name al-Abwa`, which was between Meccah and Medinah, in Dhil Hijjah, where Imam al-Sadiq (a.s.) was on his way back to Medinah, after Hajj pilgrimage. 

The date given for this is 20th of Dhil Hijjah. 

There are narrations for this, and Ibn Jarir al-Tabari mentions this in his history book as well. 

One argument against 7th (or even 9th) of Safar date is what was Imam al-Sadiq (a.s.) doing in that area of where Imam al-Kadhim (a.s.) was born? It was not a custom for them to stay in Meccah from Hajj for that long or to travel during that time. 

Another very important point is the conduct of 'Ulama and their statements. It is usually customary in the Hawzah that 7th of Safar is a mourning day, and Hawzah classes are cancelled for 'azaa for Imam al-Mujtaba (a.s.). 

Contemporary Maraji' and 'Ulama, like Seyyid al-Sistani, Sheikh Wahid Khurasani, Sheikh Safi Gulpaygani, Seyid Shubayri Zanjani, Sheikh Bahjat, and many more, say 7th of Safar is martyrdom anniversary of Imam al-Mujtaba (a.s.), and it is a mourning day. 

As for the view that Imam al-Kadhim (a.s.) was born in Safar, for those historians and scholars who take this view, it is absolutely certain that we put mourning over celebration, and so the merits of Imam al-Kadhim (a.s.) can be mentioned, with the tragedy of the martyrdom of Imam Hasan al-Mujtaba (a.s.). 

And Allah knows best.

Bismihi ta'ala

The divorce would not be valid if that was the case, and the best thing to do is for you both to refer to a qualified scholar for marriage counselling, and if no solution can be made and there is no hope for reconciliation, then husband can inform the qualified scholar and conduct the divorce in the correct way, meeting all the valid requirements, and give a document for it as well. 

And Allah knows best

Bismihi ta'ala

There is no problem with dying your hair, and it wont affect you wudhu, ghusl or anything else.

And Allah knows best

Bismihi ta'ala

There is no 'iddah for the wife to observe while "filing" for divorce. She must observe 'iddah only after the Islamic divorce is recited. When the talaq is recited, her 'iddah period will be three menstrual cycles. 

And Allah knows best

Bismihi ta'ala

I would strongly recommend you look into the functionality of mahr, as unfortunately many Muslimshave completely misunderstood what mahr/sidaq is for. 

Mahr is nothing but a gesture and tokan of the groom's truthfulness in his proposal for marriage, and once the nikah is done, you both live amicably, with utmost respect, love, commitment and mercy. 

Should you wish to spend some money on her, or take her to Hajj, or buy jewellery for her, or property in her name, or anything else, that is out of your good will, and can be used by both of you as an investment for yor future as a family. 

It does not need to be under the title of "mahr", and none of these things work as a bond or a security for the continuation of the marriage or good spousal treatment. 

Islam teaches us to keep distant from developing a materialistic mentality, and marriage should never be about money or wealth. 

And Allah knows best

Bismihi ta'ala

If she becomes Muslim, her marriage is automatically be nullified, should her husband not convert as well. She will need to observe 'iddah as well.  

Of course, this is a serious decision that she needs to deeply think about, as leaving her husband might not be an easy thing to do.

And Allah knows best

Bismihi ta'ala

A Sayyid male/female is like every other Muslim, nad can marry a non-Sayyid/non-Sayyidah, Shi'ah or Sunni, with no difference. The one condition is she has assurance that she will not leave the Ahlul Bayt School of Thought, or negatively influenced or forced to become Sunni. 

As for parents disapproval, there must be correct understanding between families, and one must always try to get the consent and blessings of parents. 

And Allah knows best. 

Bismihi ta'ala

You and your family should not rely on istikharah for making the decision of marriage. Istikharah should not be the primary tool to be used for marriage selection. 

The age gap that you mentioned is not really a major issue, and could be overlooked, if there is compatibility and commonalities and attraction towards each other.

However, as you said there is no attraction, and you do not have that certainty in this marriage proposal, then I would recommend you not rush into this, and not allow your parents to pressure you. 

You have every right to decline this proposal as well, and if you are doing the right thing, you wont need to regret in the future.

For marriage, the important thing is him being religious, having good morals, good reputation, and there being compatibility between you and him. 

Sit with him, once or twice, or even three times, and ask the right questions, especially about future plans and what your ambitions and goals are, and how his views agree with you or not, and then make your decision. Not based on istikharah, but based on the information you have.

With prayers for your success.

Bismihi ta'ala

No, it will not be rewarding. It could be haram as well, as in most, if not all Muslim societies this is unacceptable and socially inappropriate. In our Islamic law, it is called "libas al-shuhrah", which means dressing or wearing something that will invite criticism, negative comments, accusations, or ruining of reputation. 

In general, a male wearing earrings does definitely fall under the category of libas al-shuhrah, which means it would be haram. 

If it is confirmed that the Imam (a.s.) did have his ear pierced as a child, it does not mean he wore earrings, or kept on wearing it as an adult. We do not have any evidence for that. 

And, even if it was done then, for argument sake, it might have been something common then, like men having kohl on their eyes as well, but now, it is uncommon and unpracticed, especially among religious people. 

And Allah knows best. 

Bismihi ta'ala

As we have high esteeemed regards and reverence to the Ahlul Bayt (a.s.), and venerate and respect them very much, we avoid prying into things that have absolutely no benefit for us. 

When we think of the Ma'sumeen (a.s.), we must think of them in a lofty way, keep away from intrusive thoughts, or questions that won't have any benefit at all. 

However, to answer this question, there are some scholars who believe they did not use the restroom, and did not need to relieve themselves. 

Other scholars say they are humans, similar to other humans, as the Quran says, and that there are narrations that mention the Prophet (s.a.w.) leaving somewhere, covering his head, and was for the purpose of using the toilet. 

We as Shi'ah do believe that nobody at all had ever seen the Ma'sumeen (a.s.) relieve themselves. 

We also believe that Ahlul Bayt (a.s.) have been purified, as Ayatul-Tathir [Quran, 33:33] says. This could mean, as some interpret, that if they did relieve themselves, it would not be impure. 

In any case, we should focus on what we can learn from Ahlul Bayt (a.s). This matter has no use whatsoever, and is usually brought up by shallow individuals who divert away from the core teachings of our Imams (a.s.).

And Allah knows best