1. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims
  2. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

20 Questions

Is it considered bad Akhlaq to call someone who is older than you by their first name?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

We read in our books of Hadeeth that we should use Kuniya when we talk to others. Kiniya is a respected way to address others who are in front of you. It is like Abu Ahmed, Abu Ali, Abu Husain etc.

In some societies, calling an older person by his first name is considered an act of disrespect. We must avoid any thing which can be taken by people as disrespect.

Wassalam.
Is saying slang words that might be vulgar permissible, such as referring to stool of cow?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Saying vulgar words to or about others which is an insult to them is not permissible. Any act of insult to others is not allowed. Muslim should avoid vulgar language because every word is written on us in our book of deeds.

Wassalam.
I am trying to improve my Akhlaq and etiquette, but I feel awkward trying to be more soft and compassionate rather than follow my normal tendency of being cold and transactional. How do I resolve this issue?
Rebecca Masterton

It's interesting that you have awareness of your usual manner. Have you been told that by someone else, or this is your own awareness? Being around others who are compassionate can help you to learn in a practical sense how to be more compassionate. Sometimes our behaviour patterns have been inculcated in us from childhood by the general dynamics and accepted codes of behaviour in the family, and they are hard to break. If you want to change your own patterns, you can try to do so in small ways where you feel comfortable and not awkward. You don't have to do big gestures that make you feel as if you are not your self. Once you get used to small changes, you can then work on other small changes, step by step.
My husband flirts and talks to women. It has been seven years now and I am tired of his behaviour. What should a Muslim wife do in such a situation?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'ala

If this is the case that you are in, then such a relationship is not a healthy thing at all. You must try to find means of making him cease such conduct, if you have not yet tried, and then intervention, if that does not work. 

In my opinion, a wife does not deserve to be treated in such a way, and a husband being flirtatious with other women is certainly not the traits of a Muslim. 

Please watch this short clip on how a wife should deal with her promiscuous husband:

With prayers for your success