1. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims
  2. Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

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I am a 32-year-old Sunni-born woman who has practiced Shia Islam for six years. My parents insist I marry a Sunni, but I wish to marry within the Shia community. Their resistance is growing stronger each day. What should I do in this situation?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

No one has the right to force you to marry whom they want against your wish. This is the Islamic rule in all Islamic Sunni and Shia sects.Forced marriage us invalid. It is your life and you have the full right to choose your husband who should be a suitable Muslim man who follows Ahlul Bayt (AS) like you.

You may try to convince your parents either directly with very polite way, or indirectly through persons who can convince them. You should never give up and put your life with a person who is not suitable for you or a person who might create obstacles in your way to Allah, the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS).

Wassalam.
Is it Islamic for my parents to prevent me from marrying a Lebanese Shia man from a respectable and religious family just because of his nationality, despite our compatibility and my desire to make our existing relationship Halal?
Amina Inloes

Islam discourages racism and tribalism and encourages accepting any suitor who is mu'min and compatible. However people are complicated, especially when it comes to their expectations for their children's marriage and potential future descendants. I am sorry you have to go through that. 
Is it Islamic for my parents to prevent me from marrying a Lebanese Shia man from a respectable and religious family just because of his nationality, despite our compatibility and my desire to make our existing relationship Halal?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done without proper consent and blessings from both sides. 

You do not want to jepordise your relationship with your parents. They might be from an older generation that thinks differently, and therefore, try to negotiate these things through the help of elders and your local scholars. 

You cannot be in an 'existing' relationship if there is no marriage. You do not want the beginning of your married life to be in haram. That will never end good for you, or him. 

And Allah knows best
I am currently relying on food and water from Haram income sources due to family circumstances, and I have little control over it. As a student without job options, how should I address this issue with my parents without causing negative repercussions?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

You should not think that the income of your family is Haraam before having definite and clear evidence.

If you don't have a definite evidence that it is from Haraam source, you will permissible to utilise it. If you have a definite clear evidence that all the income is from Haraam source, then you have to avoid Haraam as much as you can.

Wassalam