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Ask A Question About Islam And Muslims

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Is it Islamic for my parents to prevent me from marrying a Lebanese Shia man from a respectable and religious family just because of his nationality, despite our compatibility and my desire to make our existing relationship Halal?
Amina Inloes

Islam discourages racism and tribalism and encourages accepting any suitor who is mu'min and compatible. However people are complicated, especially when it comes to their expectations for their children's marriage and potential future descendants. I am sorry you have to go through that. 
Is it Islamic for my parents to prevent me from marrying a Lebanese Shia man from a respectable and religious family just because of his nationality, despite our compatibility and my desire to make our existing relationship Halal?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done without proper consent and blessings from both sides. 

You do not want to jepordise your relationship with your parents. They might be from an older generation that thinks differently, and therefore, try to negotiate these things through the help of elders and your local scholars. 

You cannot be in an 'existing' relationship if there is no marriage. You do not want the beginning of your married life to be in haram. That will never end good for you, or him. 

And Allah knows best
I am currently relying on food and water from Haram income sources due to family circumstances, and I have little control over it. As a student without job options, how should I address this issue with my parents without causing negative repercussions?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

You should not think that the income of your family is Haraam before having definite and clear evidence.

If you don't have a definite evidence that it is from Haraam source, you will permissible to utilise it. If you have a definite clear evidence that all the income is from Haraam source, then you have to avoid Haraam as much as you can.

Wassalam
Are fathers or brothers ever allowed to be violent towards female family members? Sunni records mention Umar and Abu Bakr using violence against women in their families. Did men of Ahlul Bayt ever react this way when disagreeing with women?
Zaid Alsalami

Bismihi ta'āla

Nobody is allowed to be violent towards anyone. Violence will not solve anything, especially within a family. A brother has no authority over his sister, so he has no right to discipline or even raise his voice, let alone be violent.

You must read the biography of the Imams (a.s.), to understand their style of raising family members, and how compassionate they were in their method of discipline.

And Allah knows best