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Is it permissible to make Dua to marry a spouse from a different race or ethnicity on account of admiring their culture and finding them generally more attractive?

Seyed Ali Shobayri

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

The main things one should consider in looking for a spouse is religiosity and good manners. However there is no problem in preferring a specific type or also marrying someone if you like their culture.

Let's say for example that a woman wanted a Persian looking husband and liked Persian culture; this preference wouldn't be an issue as long as she pursued this in a halal manner.

So you may make dua for a religious spouse who fits your personal preferences.

May Allah grant you success

I understand that Islamic teachings suggest that religiosity and good character are the criteria for choosing a groom. Is it practical and sensible to follow this in this materialistic world and yet have a good spouse?

Zoheir Ali Esmail

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. There is no dichotomy between a virtuous spouse and success in the material world. In fact, the virtues taught by Islam enable the most beautiful of lives. Good character traits also include hard work, a sense of responsibility, and independence. The goal is not to hide from the world, but to have a strong enough relationship with God so as to not be stained by its negative aspects. That in itself is a journey.

May you always be successful

Is a man allowed to swallow his spouse's fluids during intercourse?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi

Any Najis material is not allowed to swallow. Even if the material is not Najis, you should seek a medical advise to be sure that it should not harm your health.

Wassalam.

Can we choose our own spouse for marriage?