Spouse

A spouse is a significant other in a marriage, civil union, or common-law marriage. The term is gender neutral, whereas a male spouse is a husband and a female spouse is a wife.

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Sister . Spouse

What steps should a sister take if her sibling is struggling to find a suitable spouse due to relatives preventing good proposals from coming through?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 9 months ago

She should keep on trying her best to find a suitable spouse avoiding those relatives who try to prevent suitable proposals. No success can be achieved with out the Allah's Help, so we always need to seek His Help and Blessings, with Waseela of His most humble servants; Mohammad and his Holy Progeny.

Wassalam.

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Ghusl . Spouse

Is the Imam of our time infallible, or can one of us make mistakes and then Allah grants infallibility to the Imam overnight?

The Imam of our time is Imam Al-Mahdi (AS) who is the twelfth and last of the Twelve Imams from Ahlul Bayt (AS) wig are the real successors of the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA). As all the prophets are Infallible, all the Twelve Imams are Infallible. This infallibility never came overnight but it is with them since the beginning of their lives till the end. You can not compare us with any Infallible Imam. Allah (SWT) Selected and Appointed the Infallible Imams and no one from the whole Umma can be compared with them.

Wassalam.

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Spouse . Cheating

Can Muslims hire a private investigator to secretly investigate personal matters, like infidelity in a marriage?

Secretly investigating personal matters has different types, not all of them are permissible. It is not permissible in Islam to spy on others even on matters which you don't like or don't accept unless it is a criminal matter which victimises others. Husband and wife are not allowed to spy on one another unless there a reasonable possibility of a criminal or Haraam act which can be stopped or prevented by such investigation.

Wassalam.

Spouse . Cheating

Can Muslims hire a private investigator to secretly investigate personal matters, like infidelity in a marriage?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 1 year ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Secretly collecting information from someone could be done for various meanings, so we cannot say it is absolutely haram, or falls under spying. If it is the wife, who suspects her husband is engaging in extramarital relationships, then this is something that needs to be addressed, not just by "confirming" if suspicions are real.

I have discussed this in the following clip:

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Spouse

How can one focus on one's own self growth when your spouse is not supportive?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 1 year ago

Everyone has different methods of self-growth, different approaches to life, and philosophies. Sometimes, someone that may be intent on following a certain path, or programme of self-development, may not see the limitations of that approach from the perspective of their spouse, who cannot follow the same programme, due to the limitations that they see, or issues with the approach.

I am not saying that this is your situation, but I have seen it in some cases. Be careful not to alienate your spouse in focusing upon your inner work, as marriage is also a part of that inner work. The challenges between two people are often what actually forces a person to grow, and to mature.

The danger comes if someone actively tries to undermine you. That is a totally different situation, and would call into question the foundation of the marriage, but if they are allowing you space, even though not actively on the same page as you, then you can work towards what you have in common as friends and allies.

There needs to be a balance between both people: both allowing some space for the way the other person is, while also bearing in mind each other's obligations.

Don't expect them to follow your programme - perhaps they have a viewpoint that could be beneficial to you, which you can't see at the moment.

These are just suggestions, as I don't know your personal situation.

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Spouse . Qur'an . Sexual

Is there any verse of the Quran that states that discussing marital intimacy or seeking clarification about one's spouse should be avoided, whether in public or private settings?

Quranic verse are very clear in ordering the believers not to mention any thing which can hurt the feelings of a believer or might cause disrespect to him. Discussing marital intimacy or seeking clarification about one's spouse must not cause any harm or disrespect or annoying the spouse in any way.

Wassalam.

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Spouse . Arabic . Mut'a (Temporary marriage)

If your spouse is not able to pronounce Arabic letters correctly for Mut'ah, what alternative formula can be used?

In such case, she needs to request some one who is able to pronounce Arabic letters to recite it on her behalf.

Wassalam.

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Spouse . Du'a (Supplication)

Is it permissible to supplicate for a spouse who resembles a particular actress or actor?

Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 2 years ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. There is no problem in praying for that but just don't let it become a barrier to suitable partners when looking for perspective spouses. May Allah grant you all of your lawful desires.

May you always be successful

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Spouse . Sexual

Is it permissible to use a remote controlled device to stimulate your spouse when they are physically away from each other?

Seyed Ali Musawi, Seyed Ali Musawi studied religion and history at the University of California, San Diego and subsequently he studied for more than 8 years at the Islamic Seminary in Qum, Iran, focusing on Islamic... Answered 3 years ago

Salaam allaikum,

This is considered forbidden (haram). It is not allowed to use any foreign objects during sexual intercourse.

Spouse . Sexual

Is it permissible to use a remote controlled device to stimulate your spouse when they are physically away from each other?

If the device is totally controlled by you only to stimulate your spouse, it will be then permissible as husband and wife are allowed to enjoy themselves between themselves. Device should not be used by any person to sexually stimulate himself or herself alone.

Wassalam.

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Spouse . Wudu (Ablution)

Does kissing one's spouse invalidate Wudu?

Not at all. This question has root in Shafi'ee Sunni sect who claim that touching any women invalidates the Wudhu. This claim came because of their misunderstanding of the meaning of the Quranic verse (Or you touched women and did not get water then perform Tayammum) Sura 5, verse 6. The meaning of touching is not the linguistic meaning of just touching, but it means the sexual relationship which causes the state of Janabah. This claim has come from narrations from Omar ibn Al-Khattab and Abdullah ibn Omar and other narrators. Majority of Sunni scholars and all Shia scholars refused these narrations.

Kissing one's spouse does not invalidate Wudhu.

Wassalam.

Spouse . Wudu (Ablution)

Does kissing one's spouse invalidate Wudu?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answered 4 years ago

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

No this doesn't break wudu unless it causes one to ejaculate.

May Allah grant you success