Resentment

Resentment (also called ranklement or bitterness) is a complex, multilayered emotion that has been described as a mixture of disappointment, disgust, anger, and fear. Other psychologists consider it a mood or as a secondary emotion (including cognitive elements) that can be elicited in the face of insult and/or injury. Inherent in resentment is a perception of unfairness (i.e. from trivial to very serious), and a generalized defense against unfair situations.

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Life . Resentment
I feel resentment towards my in-laws due to their selfishness and pressure to do things against my will. I am now mirroring their behavior. How can I address this situation and improve my feelings and actions?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

It is not in the teachings of Quran, the Prophet (SAWA)  and Ahlul Bayt (AS) to mirror bad behavior. We are been advised to do good always even when are been wronged. 

'The best way to make your in-laws treat you in a better way is to do more good and avoid doubting their intentions. Tolerate and be patient and try to avoid bed thoughts, your life will be better. The Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) ordered his followers to do good even to those who did wrong to you وأحسِن إلى مَن أساء إلَيك

Wassalam.
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Husband . Sexual . Wife . Resentment
What should I do if my husband’s sexual performance has been lacking for over four years, causing me to feel resentful, frustrated, and miserable?
Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

1. This is a critical matter which should be dealt with with top care and secrecy. If this matter is dealt with in a wrong way, it can harm your relationship with your husband and it can lead to bigger problems.

2. You must be be careful in talking about this matter with your husband and avoid disclosing it to any one side even from your near relatives who know your husband.

4. Be frank with your husband in talking about this matter and make him think that you need his advice and never compliant against him.

5. Both of you need to discuss the possible reasons to try to avoid its factors.

6. You both can seek medical advise to both of you as partner in the matter.

7. You should be content with whatever is oossible along with your efforts to imporove.

Wassalam.
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