Engagement

An engagement or betrothal is the relationship between two people who want to get married, and also the period of time between a marriage proposal and a marriage. During this period, a couple is said to be betrothed, intended, affianced, engaged to be married, or simply engaged. Future brides and grooms may be called the betrothed, a wife-to-be or husband-to-be, fiancée or fiancé (from the French), respectively.

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Engagement

What are the limits of talking to one's fiancé before the Aqd?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 5 anni fa

If you and you fiance have no Aqd between you, both of you are non Mahram to each other.

You need to have an Aqd between you, whether temporary or otherwise to talk to her any intimate talk.

Wassalam.

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Love . Engagement

I understand that one can talk to their fiancé provided there are no lustful intentions. Is this correct? If so, is saying words such as 'I love you' allowed?

Seyed Ali Shobayri, Seyed Ali Shobayri is of mixed Iranian and Scottish descent who found the path of the Ahlul Bayt (a) by his own research. He holds a BA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University through the... Answer updated 5 anni fa

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

You may say this if you are both mahram to each other. Being Halal to each other is established by reading the nikah or a mutah formula with the correct conditions. After this, sharing affectionate words is permitted.

May Allah grant you success

Love . Engagement

I understand that one can talk to their fiancé provided there are no lustful intentions. Is this correct? If so, is saying words such as 'I love you' allowed?

No, it is not allowed to tell your fiance: I love you, simply because there is no religious frame (Aqd) between you like Nikah or Mut'ah. Your fiance remains non Mahram to you until you have such Aqd recited between you with its conditions like the permission of the father of virgin girl.

Wassalam.

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Is it permissible to communicate with my fiance before marriage through text messages with our mom as a intermediary between us?

Bismillah,

Asalamu Alaykom,

As a precautionary measure in this case it would be better to read a type of marriage contract to make each other mahram. However even if you aren’t mahram and you having an intermediary would be a preventive measure for no haram type of chat, then it should be fine inshallah

May Allah grant you success

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Marriage . Istikhara . Engagement

My marriage Istikhara was positive, having been done repeatedly and by multiple sources, so we proceeded to engagement but it broke after a few months. Why was the Istikhara positive and how can we trust this process again?

Abbas Di Palma, Shaykh Abbas Di Palma holds a BA and an MA degree in Islamic Studies, and certifications from the Language Institute of Damascus University. He has also studied traditional Islamic sciences in... Answer updated 5 anni fa

as salam alaikum

the purpose of istikharah is not to tell what will happen in the future but to indicate the best course of actions to be undertaken by the believer who put his trust in Allah.

One of the underlying notions in the Du'a Istikharah of Imam Zayn al-'Abidin, peace be upon him, is that the servant should be pleased with what Allah has decreed for him. In it there is a huge wisdom that the servant may realize later on, or even after his lifetime.

It is important however to consider istikharah as a du'a and a request to Allah, not a prediction of future events.

With prayers for your success.

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Man . Woman . Engagement

I am an unmarried man who is about to be engaged to a woman who had a bad past, but who has fully reformed. However, the idea of her past haunts me. How can I deal with it?

Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 5 anni fa

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. A person cannot be separated from their past. Indeed, we learn from our past experiences and the lessons shape our attitudes to the future. Your future wife would not be the way she is now without the experiences of her past, and if you wish to have her as a partner you have to accept and be comfortable with that. It is not something you can force on yourself, but a decision you have to consciously make and be comfortable with. If you are not comfortable with it you have to address it, as in marriage there are many challenges and if this is always going to be a point of tension, it will damage the future of the relationship.

May you always be successful