I am an unmarried man who is about to be engaged to a woman who had a bad past, but who has fully reformed. However, the idea of her past haunts me. How can I deal with it?
I am an unmarried man who is about to be engaged to a woman who had a bad past, but who has fully reformed. However, the idea of her past haunts me. How can I deal with it?
Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 6 years ago
Bismillah
Thank you for your question. A person cannot be separated from their past. Indeed, we learn from our past experiences and the lessons shape our attitudes to the future. Your future wife would not be the way she is now without the experiences of her past, and if you wish to have her as a partner you have to accept and be comfortable with that. It is not something you can force on yourself, but a decision you have to consciously make and be comfortable with. If you are not comfortable with it you have to address it, as in marriage there are many challenges and if this is always going to be a point of tension, it will damage the future of the relationship.
May you always be successful