Husband

A husband is a male in a marital relationship. The rights and obligations of a husband regarding his spouse and others, and his status in the community and in law, vary between cultures and have varied over time.

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Parents . Husband . Domestic violence

I involved my parents due to my husband's verbal abuse, where he belittles me, calls me lazy, mocks me, and insists he comes before them. Is it right for him to demand this priority despite his abusive behavior?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 months ago

It is better to keep your issues with your husband between you and him with out involving others as much as possible. If you both are completely unable to sort your things together then a person from your family with a person from his family can be involved to sort things out. Don't try to make your parents take a negative opinion about your husband by hearing your side of the story before hearing his side. Involving your parents should repair and strengthen the relation between you and your husband and never to create enmity or bad feeling between them and your husband. You and your husband should talk peacefully to understand the reasons of your misunderstands and to try to avoid it as much as possible.

Wassalam.

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Wife . Man . Divorce . Husband

If a wife is in contact with another man in an inappropriate way and then seeks divorce from her husband in order to be with that other man, while the husband refuses divorce and wishes for reconciliation, does she have the right to obtain divorce?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 5 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

She can request this from her husband, and the husband should comply. He has no right to force her to stay with him. He needs to give himself self-respect and cooperate.

And Allah knows best

200865

Husband . Sexual . Money . Divorce . Marriage

I have been married for two years, but my husband is unable to fulfill my financial and sexual rights as he lives abroad and has no money. What steps can I take to initiate a divorce, given my feelings of resentment toward him?

Bismihi ta'āla

The first step is to make sure the husband cooperates, so that he does not refrain from granting divorce, as that will make things difficult. Speak to your family, and your local scholar, and follow the procedure for shar'i divorce.

And Allah knows best

200686

Husband . Wife . Duties . Sexual . Homemaking . Repentance (Tawbah) . Alcohol

If a husband engages in drinking or adultery, is the wife still required to fulfill her responsibilities, such as cooking and intimacy, or can she refuse him and choose to live separately until he repents?

Wife must fulfill her duties towards her husband even if the husband is a bad person committing sinful acts. Husband suns are on him but it can never exempt his wife from her duties as a wife. Her suffering because of her husband's bad deeds will add in her reward as patient person as lady Asian tolerated her very bad husband Firaon.

Wife can not refuse her husband nor live separately. Yes she should never help him in any wrong act.
'Wassalam.

200430

Husband . Alcohol . Children

My husband is not religious and believes alcohol is allowed in Islam. He wants to drink monthly. I am concerned he may drink secretly despite my objections. How much can I intervene, and is it appropriate to consider leaving him and the kids if he does?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 5 months ago

I am sorry to hear that. Most likely, he knows that alcohol is disallowed in Islam, but doesn't care. (There are many things Muslims debate over; alcohol is rarely one of them.) He may also have some dependency on alcohol. You can advise him, but in the end he will make his own decision.

What you should do depends on yourself and the situation. Sometimes, drinking itself is the problem (for instance, if someone becomes violent or overspends because of it), and sometimes it is symptomatic of other problems (here, a difference about religion, and/or other problems in the marriage - often, people are willing to overlook a great deal if a marriage is going well, even if they disapprove of it).

I think you should consider your situation holistically - how is the marriage overall, what are your options financially and practically, are there other concerns, would you lose contact with your children if you left him, and how much psychological stress is it causing you - and talk to someone you know in person who can give you good advice based on your situation overall. Also, many religiously minded parents want their children to be raised religiously, and if your husband would have custody and is not religious, it might not be what you want (I am sure you have already taken that into consideration).

While it's advised in hadith not to marry someone who drinks, that is a decision to make before marriage; now you are in the marriage already and have children, so it's a reality you have to navigate and make the best choice about. In the end, it's something you need to sort out for yourself, because advice for one person will differ from advice for another person.

With duas!

Husband . Alcohol . Children

Drinking alcohol is definitely Haraam (Forbidden) in Islam. You try your best to help your husband to avoid such sinful act. If he insists on committing sins, you will not be responsible as far as you don't help or assist him in committing the sin.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Adultery

I discovered that my husband has cheated on me multiple times. Despite my loyalty, I am struggling to forgive him and it is affecting my ability to care for my three children leading to frustration. What can I do to cope with this situation?

Bismihi ta'āla

You have every right to be upset, and every right to be frustrated, but you must control yourself, to make sure you do not fall short of your motherhood and parenting duties. Your children have no guilt in this, so they need your full attention and grace.

A promiscuous husband does definitely affect you as a wife, and you must put a stop to this. Discuss this with him, his family, your family, elders in the community, and if he continues his ways, you might need to make the strong decision of leaving him, if it is affecting you.

And Allah knows best

197232

Khula . Husband . Consent . Marja'

Can a Marja grant Khula if the husband is absent, with the wife not compensating him and obtaining the Khula without his consent through the Marja?

Marja' of Taqleed has the right to issue Khul'a Talaq if the husband is not responding to the Marja's calling him to give his wife's full rights or giving her divorce.

Wassalam.

197332

Husband . Wife . Sexual

Is it permissible for a husband to touch and kiss his wife’s private parts, and to have intercourse while both are fully naked?

Wa Alaykum Assalam wr wb.
Yes it is permissible to do all acts mentioned in your 1 and 2 questions.

Wassalam.

197107

Husband . Divorce . Apostasy (Irtidad)

My husband has expressed that he believes Islam is fake and he no longer wants a marriage based on Islam. He later recants some of it, but he no longer prays. We are now discussing divorce. What advice can you offer to someone in my circumstance?

It is possible that he said what he said because of some misunderstanding and he did not really mean to leave Islam. In such case, he is still a Muslim. If you are sure that he has deliberately left believing in Islam and became a non Muslim, your marriage bond with him finishes as there is no marriage between Muslim woman and non Muslim man. When there is no marriage bond, there is no question nor need for divorce as marriage has already become nil and void. If a husband becomes a non Muslim, his Muslim wife must observe Iddah of Wafat which is four months and ten days. That is after being definitely sure that he has become a non Muslim.

Leaving praying Salah does not make a person non Muslim because it can happen out if carelessness, unless he denies Salah.

Wassalam.

196487

Husband . Wife . Sexual

Is it permissible for a husband and wife to use sex toys to enhance satisfaction during their intimate relationship?

Husband and wife are allowed to enjoy themselves between themselves using any part of their own body. Using sex toys is not permissible between husband and wife because it involves something else not from their own body.

Wassalam..

195748

Husband . Ear . Hadith . Earring . Body Piercing

I have a question regarding ear piercing for my husband. I have asked him to consider it, as it doesn't relate to imitating non-Muslims or women. Are there any Hadith specifically warning men against wearing earrings?

Bismihi ta'āla

This topic has been addressed here a few times. What we can clearly say is that it is definitely culturally unacceptable for Muslim men to do this, and this would be enough for a male to refrain from having earrings.

And Allah knows best