Adultery

Adultery is extramarital sex that is considered objectionable on social, religious, moral, or legal grounds. Although what sexual activities constitute adultery varies, as well as the social, religious, and legal consequences, the concept exists in many cultures and is similar in Christianity, Islam, and Judaism.

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Marriage . Man . Adultery . Woman . Spinster

What is the ruling on marriage for an unmarried young man who commits adultery with a married woman?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 months ago

Any man who commits the major sin of fornication with a married woman will be forbidden from marrying her for all his life. He can marry with another woman if she agrees but not that woman with whom he committed the crime of fornication while she was married even if she is now divorced or widow.

Wassalam.

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Husband . Adultery

I discovered that my husband has cheated on me multiple times. Despite my loyalty, I am struggling to forgive him and it is affecting my ability to care for my three children leading to frustration. What can I do to cope with this situation?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 6 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

You have every right to be upset, and every right to be frustrated, but you must control yourself, to make sure you do not fall short of your motherhood and parenting duties. Your children have no guilt in this, so they need your full attention and grace.

A promiscuous husband does definitely affect you as a wife, and you must put a stop to this. Discuss this with him, his family, your family, elders in the community, and if he continues his ways, you might need to make the strong decision of leaving him, if it is affecting you.

And Allah knows best

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Husband . Murder . Wife . Shariah . Adultery

Is it true that a husband is lawfully allowed to murder his wife, according to Shariah, if she is caught commiting adultery or is an adulteress in general?

No. Husband is not allowed to murder his wife but he can report his authentic evidence to the Islamic authority (Haakim Al- Sharee'ah).

Wassalam.

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Alcohol . Forgiveness . God (Allah) . Adultery

What is the right method to seek forgiveness from Allah after committing adultery while under the influence of alcohol? How can I rectify the situation and alleviate the inner torment caused by my guilt?

1. Deep feeling of sorrow and sadness whenever you remember committing that sin. Such sorrow and sadness can make the sinner weep when he is alone especially at night and beg from Allah to forgiveness.

2. Firm decision not to do it again under any circumstances.

3. Repeating Istighfaar ( ASTAGHFIRULLAH) or it's meaning in your own language as many times as you can, day and night, especially during night and during prostration (Sojood).

Wassalam.

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Woman . Adultery . Husband . Children . Marriage . Forgiveness

I am a married woman who committed adultery and I have also informed my husband about it. We have children together and I am seeking a solution for this difficult situation. Is it allowed for my husband to forgive me for the sake of our children?

Bismhi ta'ala

This is going to be a choice the husband makes. Of course, you must understand how difficult it would be for him to trust you again, or to forget the incident, and it might continue to be brought up, especially if you have an argument.

He might even accuse the children of not being his, and so on.

Therefore, if he forgives you, which is possible from a shar'i perspective, you must both navigate correct solutions to deal with the infidelity and how to avoid it in future, from both sides.

And Allah knows best

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Adultery . Marriage . Repentance (Tawbah)

If a wife cheats on her husband by committing adultery with another man, would their marriage become invalid? If so, can they remarry after she repents?

Bismihi ta'ala

As we know, marital betrayal of this kind is a serious problem and a grave sin. Froma fiqhi perspective, she is still married to her husband, and although she committed zina, her marriage to her husband is still valid. She does need to repent, but she does not need to remarry her husband.

And Allah knows best.

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Man . Divorce . Wife . Adultery . Woman . Knowledge

Does a man need to divorce his wife if he committed adultery with another woman without her knowledge?

He needs to repent and decide not to commit such crime again and seek forgiveness from Allah (SWT) but he does not need to divorce his wife.

Committing such major sin is strongly forbidden and condemned and the knowledge or no knowledge of his wife does not change the rule.

Wassalam.

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Sin . Adultery

What is the best way for a person to avoid the major sins, such as adultery?

Zoheir Ali Esmail, Shaykh Zoheir Ali Esmail has a Bsc in Accounting and Finance from the LSE in London, and an MA in Islamic Studies from Middlesex University. He studied Arabic at Damascus University and holds a PhD... Answered 6 years ago

Bismillah

Thank you for your question. There are a number of strategies a person can employ to avoid sins, but the most important is to realise the reality of sinning. It is the knowledge of what sins really are, and their damaging effects in this world and the next that will keep a person away from any type of sinning. The more that knowledge increases, the more distant a person will be from sin until they reach a level of infallibility.

As for adultery a person should think about its ends in this world and the next and compare those ends to the fact that God has provided a halal and upright way for sexual pleasure. They should avoid all of the actions that are prerequisites to adultery such as attending the wrong kind of places and having the wrong kinds of conversation which will lead to such sins. They should be careful of their imagination as it is the imagination that makes the sin look better than it ever is. A factor of sin is anticlimax, as all sins are never as good as their imagination, whereas the reward of not sinning in the next world is better than anything that can be imagined.

May you always be successful

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Husband . Wife . Adultery

As a husband what should I do about my wife's adultery?

Nour Tessie Jørgensen, Nour Tessie Jørgensen has an MA in Islamic studies from the University of Copenhagen, Denmark and a degree in Philosophy of Ethics at Al Mustafa International University in Qum, Iran. She works as... Answered 6 years ago

It depends on the situation and your feelings towards her and her actions.

First and foremost we pray that God forgives our sins, and strengthen us to the degree that we are able to forgive.   It is an unbearable situation, and I can only imagine the pain you are going through. You should give yourself credit for reaching out and seeking help rather than acting in a moment of anger, like the Prophet (S) said, ‘Anger is a smouldering ember [kindled by] Satan.’ [Bihar al-Anwar, v. 73, p. 265, no. 15]. All of our actions and words have consequences, and it is an admirable trait that you are seeking counsel before reacting to the news of your wife’s adultery.

Whether you should forgive her or let go is entirely up to you. I would try to understand the reasons behind her actions as they may be a result of her being unhappy or struggling with something. In longterm relationships we might overlook the signs that the other person is unhappy, and we might get used to the person being there, resulting in us not paying the same attention as we did in the beginning of the relationship. Relationships demand a lot of work, especially communication exercises, compassion, respect and patience.

If you decide it is worth fighting for, you must be sure that she is determined to work on the relationship as much as you are. This, of course, includes not cheating again, but also acknowledging the mistakes one made. You have to find the reasons behind your current situation, where did it go wrong? It might not be a specific situation or time, but minor incidences adding up to this. Therapy is a good way to deal with past trauma and you might even find communication courses beneficial. You must be able to forgive her, let go and work on the mistrust. If you can’t, it will continue to create unbalance in the relationsship. We must be able to forgive in order for the other part to move on, and leave behind their misdeeds. If we can’t forgive, it is better to take some time apart, dealing with one’s emotions.

When we are trying to change, to improve ourselves and rise from the darkness of our misdeeds, it is unhealthy for our growing process that we are reminded of the actions we are trying to distance ourselves from. She will not be able to move past that sin if you are reminding her, which is a natural result of being hurt. If you want to work on it, you both have to possess a sincere interest of understanding each other. If one is going into a dialogue with pain, mistrust and accusations, one will not succeed. One must go into a dialogue with a sincere desire of understanding the other part, and respecting their version of the truth, even though it might be different from one’s own version.

If you on the other hand decide it is not worth fighting for you might find it beneficial to have a period of seperation before divorcing her. The Prophet (S) said, ‘The Prophet (S) said, ‘Shall I tell you who is the toughest and strongest from among you? The one who controls himself when he is angry.’[Nathr al-Durar, v. 1, p. 183]