Family

201041

Girl . Parents . Family . Sunni-Shi'a . Marriage

I am a 32-year-old Sunni-born woman who has practiced Shia Islam for six years. My parents insist I marry a Sunni, but I wish to marry within the Shia community. Their resistance is growing stronger each day. What should I do in this situation?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 5 months ago

No one has the right to force you to marry whom they want against your wish. This is the Islamic rule in all Islamic Sunni and Shia sects.Forced marriage us invalid. It is your life and you have the full right to choose your husband who should be a suitable Muslim man who follows Ahlul Bayt (AS) like you.

You may try to convince your parents either directly with very polite way, or indirectly through persons who can convince them. You should never give up and put your life with a person who is not suitable for you or a person who might create obstacles in your way to Allah, the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS).

Wassalam.

201004

Parents . Family . Marriage . Sunni-Shi'a

Is it Islamic for my parents to prevent me from marrying a Lebanese Shia man from a respectable and religious family just because of his nationality, despite our compatibility and my desire to make our existing relationship Halal?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 5 months ago

Islam discourages racism and tribalism and encourages accepting any suitor who is mu'min and compatible. However people are complicated, especially when it comes to their expectations for their children's marriage and potential future descendants. I am sorry you have to go through that.

Parents . Family . Marriage . Sunni-Shi'a

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 5 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done without proper consent and blessings from both sides.

You do not want to jepordise your relationship with your parents. They might be from an older generation that thinks differently, and therefore, try to negotiate these things through the help of elders and your local scholars.

You cannot be in an 'existing' relationship if there is no marriage. You do not want the beginning of your married life to be in haram. That will never end good for you, or him.

And Allah knows best

200469

Haram . Income . Family . Parents . Students

I am currently relying on food and water from Haram income sources due to family circumstances, and I have little control over it. As a student without job options, how should I address this issue with my parents without causing negative repercussions?

You should not think that the income of your family is Haraam before having definite and clear evidence.

If you don't have a definite evidence that it is from Haraam source, you will permissible to utilise it. If you have a definite clear evidence that all the income is from Haraam source, then you have to avoid Haraam as much as you can.

Wassalam

199585

Family . Domestic violence . Woman . Ahl al-Bayt . Sunni-Shi'a

Are fathers or brothers ever allowed to be violent towards female family members? Sunni records mention Umar and Abu Bakr using violence against women in their families. Did men of Ahlul Bayt ever react this way when disagreeing with women?

Bismihi ta'āla

Nobody is allowed to be violent towards anyone. Violence will not solve anything, especially within a family. A brother has no authority over his sister, so he has no right to discipline or even raise his voice, let alone be violent.

You must read the biography of the Imams (a.s.), to understand their style of raising family members, and how compassionate they were in their method of discipline.

And Allah knows best

195723

Husband . Daughter . Employment . Family . Children

I reside in the UK with my husband and our 10-month-old daughter. I am considering returning to work but struggling to choose between childcare or working, especially without family support. What would be the best option for me?

Child care is more important and it is the best you can do for your child and family and you future in this life and hereafter. Whatever money you might get from working will never compensate the loss of your child when you spend long hours away from him. Child care and looking after your children in fact is the best investment.

Wassalam.

195679

Family . Mayyit . Grief . Death . Qur'an

Is it possible for the deceased to maintain a connection with their grieving family after death? Can they see or hear their circumstances or witness their family's daily lives? Please share references from the Quran and sayings of the Imams.

According to narrations, deceased soul can come to his house and family once a year, or once a month or weekly, depending on his degree. If he sees his family doing good deeds, he will be happy and if he sees them in bad situation, he will be sad. (Biharul Anwar V.6, page 257).

Wassalam.

194797

Beach . Family . Wedding

Is it considered allowed to hold a beach wedding after the Nikkah, with mixed family and friends from both the bride's and groom's sides, followed by a celebration party with Halal food and drinks?

Arranging mixed gathering between males and females with out proper Hijab is not permissible.

Wassalam.

194421

Family . Father . Brother

As a 33-year-old man involved in a family business, I find the environment unhealthy due to hurtful remarks from my father and older brother. How can I address this situation effectively?

Bismihi ta'āla

They have no right to direct hurtful remarks to you, and they will be responsible for that. Unfortunately, some family-run businesses become very toxic and a reason for severing ties with family members.

They might not know how these comments are hurting you, so explain it to them. They might not mean it as well. Many people express their frustration or anger with verbal outcry, saying bad things.

You must try to overlook that, for the sake of your work. Try to perfect your work contribution as well, so you dont give them an excuse to say anything but praise.

If things get worse, try to save up enough to do your own work, but do not leave on bad terms.

And Allah knows best

192806

Family . Silat al-Rahm

As a child, my deceased father severed ties with his family, so I am unaware if they are alive or where they might be. My maternal aunts also distanced themselves from us, and I do not know their status. What are my obligations concerning Silat al-Rahm?

You and every Muslim is obliged to search and contact his relatives and treat them nicely even if they had bad history with your parents or even with you. We must treat all our relatives in a nice way.

Wassalam.

148012

Fear . Family . Anxiety . Health . Du'a (Supplication)

I am worried about myself or a family member contracting an incurable disease, and my work in a medical environment heightens this fear. Is there a specific Dua that can help alleviate my anxiety regarding this situation?

There are many supplications for protection beside repeating Estighfaar and Salawaat and giving Sadaqa. These supplications are mentioned in many books like Mafateeh Al-Jinan. One of these Du'as is (أُعيذُ نفسي وديني وأهلي ومالي وما رَزَقَني رَبِّي بالله الواحد الأحد الذي لم يلد ولم يولد ولم يكن له كفوا أحد.

(O'EETHU NAFSI WA DEENI WA AHLI WA MAALI WA MACRAZAQANI RABBI BILLAH AL WAAHUD AL-AHAD ALLATHI LAM YALID WALAMBYIULAD WALAMBYAKON LAHU KOFOWAN AHAD)

Wassalam.

190527

Catholic . Man . Islam . Family . Future . Children . Marriage Proposal . Conversion to Islam

I have a proposal from a Catholic man who wants to convert to Islam and has family support. Are there any restrictions regarding his family, him, me, or our future children in this situation?

Bismihi ta'ala

Congratulations on your proposal. If he meets the right requirements for a spouse, and there is compatibility, and families are happy, go ahead.

No, there are no restrictions, other than the basic shar'i matters, like halal food, no alcohol, etc. Besides this, you and him can visit them in Christmas, and be with them, like any other family.

And Allah knows best