Fear

Fear is a feeling induced by perceived danger or threat that occurs in certain types of organisms, which causes a change in metabolic and organ functions and ultimately a change in behavior, such as fleeing, hiding, or freezing from perceived traumatic events.

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OCD . Fear . Food

I have struggled with OCD for 12 years and have been on medication, but it is worsening. I am concerned about possibly transferring tiny traces of waste into my kitchen, the food I prepare, and even into my mouth. What steps can I take to address this?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 1 year ago

Such repeated doubts are from your worse enemy Shaitan and must tackle it to get rid of it. You should ignore these thoughts and doubts till you don't get it. If you care for it, it will continue coming to you and might also increase and make your life more difficult, but when you ignore it and keep on ignoring it whenever it comes, it will not come to your mind frequently.

Wassalam.

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Fear . Family . Anxiety . Health . Du'a (Supplication)

I am worried about myself or a family member contracting an incurable disease, and my work in a medical environment heightens this fear. Is there a specific Dua that can help alleviate my anxiety regarding this situation?

There are many supplications for protection beside repeating Estighfaar and Salawaat and giving Sadaqa. These supplications are mentioned in many books like Mafateeh Al-Jinan. One of these Du'as is (أُعيذُ نفسي وديني وأهلي ومالي وما رَزَقَني رَبِّي بالله الواحد الأحد الذي لم يلد ولم يولد ولم يكن له كفوا أحد.

(O'EETHU NAFSI WA DEENI WA AHLI WA MAALI WA MACRAZAQANI RABBI BILLAH AL WAAHUD AL-AHAD ALLATHI LAM YALID WALAMBYIULAD WALAMBYAKON LAHU KOFOWAN AHAD)

Wassalam.

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Fear . Heart . Qiyama

How can I find peace in my heart despite experiencing immense fear related to the Day of Judgement?

Allah Says in Quran: There is no fear on the humble servants of Allah, nor sadness.(Sura Yunus, verse 63).

It is good to think about the great Mercy of Allah and repeat Ya Arhama Arrahimeen and Ya Rahman Ya Raheem.

One of the best ways to find peace in our heart is by repeating Salawaat (ALLAHUMMA SALLI ALA MUHAMMAD WA AALI MUHAMMAD) as well as Esighfaar (ASTAGHFIRULLAH RABBI WA ATOUBU ELAYH).

Wassalam.

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Worship . Greed . Paradise . Fear . Hell . Praise . God (Allah) . Qur'an

Is the statement "I worshiped Allah not for paradise or fear of hell, but because He deserves all praise" considered authentic? Does it not contradict the teachings of the Quran that teaches fear of hell and incentivizes with desire of Jannah?<br>

Faith in Allah (SWT) has many degrees. Feeding of hell makes people avoid sinful acts. Keening for Paradise makes people do more good to gain Paradise. Higher degrees of faith of most humble servants of Allah, make them not only higher than fearing hellfire and keening Paradise but loving and worshiping Allah as He is entitled to be worshiped. Real love for Allah in the heart of His most humble servants makes them worship Him for His Greatness as He is The Only entitled to be worshiped.

‘The Quranic verses you mentioned are for usual believers who have a certain degree of faith and love for Allah. Such degree does not apply to the most humble servants of Allah (SWT) who have the higher degrees of faith and love for Allah (SWT).

Wassalam.

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Abortion . Husband . Wife . Cheating . Fear . Pregnancy . Health . Lie . Infant

Is having an abortion at 7 weeks permissible due to the husband's physical and mental abuse towards the wife, including cheating, lying, and causing emotional distress, if the wife is concerned about the safety of the baby and her own mental health?

No. Abortion is killing a human being in early formation. Abortion is not permissible at all except in the case of saving the life of the mother if pregnancy can kill her.

Wassalam.

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Hawza . Knowledge . Money . Marriage . Fear . Sin

If one has a choice to study at Hawza to learn essential knowledge or to save the money for marriage, and it has become obligatory to marry due to fear of falling into sin, what should he choose?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 years ago

Bismihi ta'ala

Knowledge precedes everything, especially if it is Ilahi knowledge, studying about your religion and learning the 'Ulum of Ahlul Bayt (a.s.).

Studying Hawzah is free of charge, and if for whatever reason a certain institute that offers Hawzah studies charge a fee, they are usually a bare minimum which any person would generally be able to pay.

Should your plan be to travel to Qom or Najaf to study Hawzah, you will only need to pay for the air ticket, and basic expenses to establish yourself there. The Hawzah will then give you some monthly wages.

This could eat into your budget you have allocated for marriage, but if you have become acquainted with Islam, you will know that the process of getting married should also be cheap and reasonable. By avoiding excessive things, you will also be able to get happily married.

Therefore, I do not see any of the two to be an obstacle, or affect the other, as long as you are making the correct choices. You do not have to choose one over the other, but rather pursue both at once.

With your tawakkul on Allah ta'ala, and sincere intentions, and dua, you will successfully accomplish both, in shaa Allah.

With prayers for your success.

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Fear . Death

I have extreme fear of death and it is affecting me daily, I feel like I will die soon and I get panic attacks regularly, I am 16 years old and I need help to get rid of this feeling. What should I do?

Fear of death is mainly caused by misunderstanding death and its consequences or because of fearing the bad results of sinful acts.

Death is a definite stage in the life of every human being and it does not mean a disaster but a transfer from a stage of life to another stage in which good people will enjoy the great reward and Mercy of Allah, while bad people will meet the results of their own deeds.

Believing in The Mercy of Allah should make us hope to get from His Mercy whether we are alive in this world or after this world.

Death is the start of the happy life of the believer as well as the start of punishment of the enemies of Allah.

Always trust and hope to get from Allah's Mercy and repeat: YA ARHAMARRAHIMEEN. Repeating Salawaat and Estighfaar is also very useful in getting peace of mind.

Wassalam .

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Lust . Fear . Sin . Mahram . Marriage

Am I allowed to talk more casually or even joke sometimes with non Mahrams, but without the intention of lust and fear of falling into sin and without being in a relationship with them?

Bismihi ta'ala

This is a very important question, and relevant to all of us, as we all somehow socially interact with others. In today's society, the boundaries of non-mahram interaction are also weaker than before, which makes it even more challenging for us Muslims.

Please watch this presentation I gave in the holy month on this very topic, with detail explanation. It starts from the 1:38 hour mark:

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Fear . Du'a (Supplication) . Astraphobia

I have astraphobia which is fear of thunder and lightning. Is there a solution and Dua for this condition?

Repeating Estighfaar, Salawaat, Ya Arham Arrahimeen, Ayatul Kursi, Sura Al-Hamd and Sura Tawheed.

Wassalam.

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Marriage . Fear . Sin . Faith (Iman)

I am 30 years old, not good-looking, and I don't have a stable career. I don't wish to delay marriage and want to complete half my faith but most importantly I am in fear of falling into sin. What should I do?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 3 years ago

Inshallah you will find someone. As they say, there is somebody for everybody.

Attraction is somewhat different from conventional standards of beauty or handsomeness; sometimes two people like each other even if they don't fit society's definition of what is attractive. And, of course, different people have different ideas of what they find attractive in a mate. So, I am sure you have some features or qualities which are appealing!

And, of course, not everyone is looking primarily at physical appearance; some people value inner qualities such as compassion, helpfulness, reliability, and other things; or they admire other skills such as artistic skill, intellect, sports skill, charitable work, good conversation, or whatever. This is, of course, apart from religiosity.

If you really feel you are not physically appealing, then maybe it is good to focus on demonstrating the other personal qualities you have to offer, and this could make you look good in the other person's eyes. Most people would much prefer to be with someone who genuinely demonstrates they will look after them and be there for them or other demonstrations of good character (such as helping others) rather than someone who just looks good.

If you are male, you could consider that a lot of women don't look primarily at physical appearance especially if they are looking to settle down and have a stable life. If you need to convince the family, certainly most women's families couldn't care less what the man looks like. At the end of the day, physical appearance waxes and wanes, but a person's character remains.

As for career, do your best (and these are difficult times). But also remember that, these days, depending on where you live, there isn't always a social expectation that the man will be the sole provider (even if he is obliged to be by shariah). Also, as women get older, if they are single, they are more likely to have a career and income. So, this might become less important if you look to marry someone in a slightly older age bracket. Inshallah Allah will enrich you upon marriage, as the Qur'an says.

In my observation, the main factors for people getting married and staying married are not handsomeness/beauty and wealth, but, rather, having a good set of family values and a strong sense of commitment, as well as maintaining strong social ties with others. (This is somewhat counter to what people think.)

Put differently, most people who genuinely want to get married, do get married.

Often, when people don't get married, there is sometimes some underlying reason; for instance, they aren't really wanting commitment, they are unable to make up their mind, or there is something else pushing a potential spouse away (apart from financial reasons). So if you know someone who has good insight into human beings, you could ask the if there is anything that you might change in how you are looking for a spouse or how you are interacting with potential spouses or their families.

Of course, there could be nothing for them to say and it could simply be a matter of circumstances or simply not being the right time for you.

Anyway, inshallah, will do duas for your finding a good spouse. Continue to ask Allah especially on laylat al qadr and Allah is shy to reject duas!

Marriage . Fear . Sin . Faith (Iman)

You should try your best to get married with a suitable believer as soon as possible. Outer looking is not important nor financial situation as far as faith and morals are nice.

Marriage itself opens gates of income as we read in the Hadeeth: Get married for more income, surely marriage brings blessings in income. تزوّجوا للرزق فإن فيهن بركة.

Keep on repeating Salawaat and Istighfaar and reciting the verse: إنّ هذا لَرِزقُنا ما له مِن نَفاد Sura 38, verse 54.

Wassalam .

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Anxiety . Fear . Death

I suffer from very severe anxiety and fear especially about death and dying. How can I, as a Muslim, overcome these feelings?

Most of people misunderstand the fact of death and think it as terrible and fearful. The terrible death is only for the sinners who did insist on wrong till their death and never repented. Death for the believer is bounty and great relief from the sufferings of this worldly life. When we read Quran, we find that the moment of death of a believer is the start of new life of mercy, bounties and peace. (Refer to Sura Al-Waqi'ah). We also read in Quran that pious believer is been received by the angles on his death with peace and good news of entering Paradise: Those (Believers) whose souls are taken back by the angles, angles tell them: Peace be upon you, enter the Paradise for the good which you used to do. Sura 16, Verse 32.

Authentic Hadeeths stated that every believer will have the pleasure of seeing the Prophet (SAWA) and Ameerul Mo'mineen (AS) and other Infallible Imams (AS) on his death and they will give him best news of Paradise.

It is narrated in a Hadeeth that death is the happiest day for the believer.

Understanding these facts should make the believer not only free from fearing death but also longing for that happiness. We read in Ziyarat Ameen Allah ; O Allah make me longing for the happiness of meeting Your Mercy ( Death). مشتاقة إلى فرحة لقائك.

Death is ordained by Allah, The Most Merciful, on all the creatures and it is part of His Mercy. Enemies of Allah will face the results of their bad deeds, but believers and pious servants of Allah will meet The Great Mercy of Allah.

Wassalam.