Mut'a (Temporary marriage)

Nikah mut'ah is a private and verbal temporary marriage contract that is practiced in Twelver Shia Islam in which the duration of the marriage and the mahr must be specified and agreed upon in advance. It is a private contract made in a verbal or written format.

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Since temporary marriage does not have a fixed paradigm for how people live it out in daily life, you have to decide what is fair for you. As a wise person once said, if you have to ask the question, you already know the answer. 

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

There are no obligations or responsibilities he has towards you, and no obligations or responsibilities you have to him. No rights as well, other than him giving you the mahr you agreed upon. 

You can end it, only by him freeing you for the remaining period, so one must make sure they do not make the mistake of making the time-period too long, and do this only for the sake of it becoming a permanent marriage.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

No, it is not possible. The time duration either ends, or the man frees the woman for the remaining period.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 5 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

For the validity of the contract, for whatever reason it may be, the parent must give consent. It is also definitely the ethical thing to do.

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 5 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

The simple shar'i answer is no. The contract she enters into will not be valid. However, one must not look at this only from a shar'i side, but more from a moral and social aspect as well. 

In general, it is Islamically wrong and very disloyal if one engages with relationships without knowledge and blessings of parents. If they disapprove, that is even worse. 

And Allah knows best

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Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 5 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done in secrecy. That is a big red flag. How will he maintain his respect to her, if she's gone behind her family's back and done the most important thing in her life, without telling her family.

As is most cases, the male will definitely use this in a way that he will not show accountability to her family, and many other wrong things. 

If she has not been married before, and even if she has been married, involving family is very important. 

And Allah knows best 

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 7 months ago

Mut'a marriage agreement can be recited by the woman and man after they agree on the Mahr and period of the marriage. She should tell him in Arabic : Zawwajtoka Nafsi 'Alal Mahr Al-Ma'loom Lil Modesto Ma'loomah. (Means : I agree to be your Muta wife for the known Mahr and period). The man should reply her saying : Qabilt or Qabilt al Tazweej Linafsi 'Alal Mahril Na'loom Lil Muddatil Ma'loomah. (Meas: I accept the marriage for the known Mahr and period.)

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 8 months ago

Mut’ah marriage is not allowed with atheist or Mushrik unless and until she believes in Islam or a holy book like Torah or Bible (to be from People of Book). It is not only reciting the Kalma but more importantly believing that No Gods but Allah and Mohammad is His messenger (to be a Muslim),  or believing in Judaism or Christianity to be from Ahl al-Kitab. With out that, the marriage is invalid.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 9 months ago

Mut'ah is a time fixed Islamic marriage which ends automatically on the end of the agreed time. Both can renew the Mut'ah by reciting another Mut'ah contract with a Mahr and a new period of time if they wish. 
'Wassalam.

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Yes, post-menopausal woman does not require to observe Iddah after divorce or termination of a temporary marriage. This rule is only for those women who have no menstruation because of their passing the age of menstruation. This rule does not extend to women who had hysterectomy and no longer menstruate. Such women who are in the age of menstruation require Iddah.

It is worth mentioning that Iddah of Wafat after the death of the husband is obligatory on every wife. It is four months and ten days from her knowledge about his death.

Wassalam.

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Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 10 months ago

Both man and woman who want to enter in Mut'ah marriage need to agree between them the period of the contract and the Mahr (Dowry) which is the right of the woman. She starts telling him: ZAWWAJTOKA NAFSIV'ALAL MAHR AL-MA'LOOMAH LILMUDDATIL MA'LOOMAH زوَّجتُكَ نفسي على المهر المعلوم للمدّةآلمعلومة 

He replies her immediately: QABILTU AL-TAZWEEJ LINAFSI 'ALAMAHR AL-M'A'LOOM LIL MUDDATIL MA'LOOMAH. 

'Wassalam.

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Bismihi ta'āla

Education is not an obstacle for marriage, and will not hinder a person in finishing their degree. However, why would you plan to do mut'ah. Why don't you marry her, and maybe postpone the wedding and moving in until both of you are ready. At least you will be halal to each other. 

To answer your question, no, it is not allowed to proceed without his consent. Neither of you should even think about taking things into your own hands and doing things outside the conventional way of how people marry. 

Consider all other options, and consult with respectful elders and scholars before you take any steps in this.

And Allah knows best