Brother

A brother is a man or boy who shares one or more parents with another. Although the term typically refers to a familial relationship, it is sometimes used endearingly to refer to non-familial relationships. A full brother is a first degree relative.

204613

Brother . Parents . Phone . Sin . Privacy

Is it sinful for me to check my brother’s phone to see what he and my sisters are saying about me and my parents in a group chat, considering they are gossiping negatively about us?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

In this case, it is sinful. If they are all gossiping about you, try to understand why, and seek advice regarding the issues they are raising, to see if they genuinely have a point, and if you should try to look at their perspective. As for spying and violating someone else's privacy, this is haram.

And Allah knows best

204525

Muslims . Brother . Wife . Children . Salam alaikum . Inheritance

Can I inherit from my non-Muslim brother who has no wife or children, considering that non-Muslims typically do not inherit from Muslims?

Bismihi ta'āla

If it is your legal right to do so, yes, as long as it does not entail anything haram.

And Allah knows best

202331

Brother . Anger . Forgiveness

After being physically assaulted by my brother, am I Islamically obligated to maintain contact with him or apologize for what I said to him in anger?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 months ago

Tolerating the assault and harm from your relatives for the sake of Allah (SWT) is a type of Jihad in the way of Allah. The Holy Ahlul Bayt (AS) have tolerated great pain from some of their own relatives and taught Muslims how to deal with the relatives in all the circumstances. You should maintain good contact with your brother despite his assault on you and avoid any word or behavior which harms your relationship with him. You should also apologize for any wrong you said to him in anger.

Wassalam.

Brother . Anger . Forgiveness

After being physically assaulted by my brother, am I Islamically obligated to maintain contact with him or apologize for what I said to him in anger?

Bismihi ta'āla

Being violent to siblings is unacceptable, haram and very damaging for sibling relationships. Try to make mends with him, and apologise if you wronged him.

Hopefully, things will get back to normal between him and you, but he must know that what he did is wrong and must not be repeated.

And Allah knows best

203976

Brother . Wedding . Haram . Marriage

As a teenage girl without the authority to refuse, I am concerned about attending my brother's upcoming wedding, which may involve Haram elements. I do not want to disobey Allah, but how can I manage this situation without upsetting my parents?

Bismihi ta'āla

Have you expressed your concern about this to them? Have you spoken about not only how it is haram, but also how it will deprive them of barakah and tawfiq in their lives? Try your best to politely explain all of this, and remind them.

If they still insist on having haram elements in their wedding, I would recommend you attend only the essential parts of the wedding, so as not to create conflict and future problems for yourself, as he is your brother. You can then excuse yourself, once there are haram things. If anyone objects, or gets upset, that is for them. You cannot obey or please someone at the cost of disobeying and displeasing Allah ta'ala.

And Allah knows best

201040

Marriage . Father . Mother . Brother . Mut'a (Temporary marriage) . Grandparents

Is it allowed to keep a Mutah marriage confidential if her father and grandfather are deceased, but her mother and brother are alive? Does she need their consent in this situation?

Bismihi ta'āla

In our Islamic tradition and culture, relationships are not just personal and individual. It is the coming together of two families. It should not be done in secrecy. That is a big red flag. How will he maintain his respect to her, if she's gone behind her family's back and done the most important thing in her life, without telling her family.

As is most cases, the male will definitely use this in a way that he will not show accountability to her family, and many other wrong things.

If she has not been married before, and even if she has been married, involving family is very important.

And Allah knows best

200683

Brother . test . Temptation . Gender . Zina . Salam alaikum

I heard from my brother that the final and most challenging test for a Mu’min and Muslim is resisting the temptation of the opposite gender and avoiding Zina. Is this true?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answer updated 5 months ago

It tends to be a big challenge for people, especially in youth. Often, as people get older, that particular temptation becomes less, and other temptations come to the forefront. (Exceptions apply!)

However, although that is a common temptation, there is no one single challenge that everyone faces equally - our temptations are as diverse as ourselves. Possibly, your brother is going through a difficult time managing this aspect of himself, and this is why he said that.

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Mother . Brother

How can I cope with my emotionally abusive mother, who favors my brother and causes me to feel angry and disconnected from my faith? I've tried speaking to her, but nothing changes, and I’ve stopped praying and fasting. What should I do?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answer updated 7 months ago

There are now some coaches on YouTube that are very helpful in advising on how to cope with an emotionally abusive parent. In the household of a covert malignant narcissistic parent, children get assigned roles: the scapegoat and the golden child. To save you wasted years of your life, you will never be able to escape the role that you have been assigned. Even if your narc parent were to destroy your life, she would still find a reason to blame you for something or other, and play the victim.

You have to go 'no contact' or at least minimise contact as much as possible (minimal contact still counts as maintaining silat al-rahm - just at a safe distance). You will not be validated or have your true self seen by your mother, because she is invested in invalidating you. Instead, you have gradually accept that she will never be the mother you wanted and needed, and start to find yourself again and build your own life and identity independently of her. Don't share anything with her about yourself. Keep your life separate and private. If you are still living at home, it would be advisable to work on physically separating yourself and leaving the home.

Here is one coach and therapist who is a survivor of abuse himself: https://www.youtube.com/@narcabusecoach

197078

Brother . Jealousy . Prophet Yusuf . Prophet Ya'qub

Concerning Yusuf (AS), were his brothers envious of him due to Yaqub (AS) favoring him over the others, or was it because he bore the message of God?

Yusuf's brothers were envious of him when he was a young boy before his message, because Yuqub's favoting him over them. Obviously, Yakub as a prophet had valid reasons to favor Yusuf and was never emotional.

Wassalam.

196849

Sister . Parents . Brother . Life

What actions can I take as a sister if I observe my parents making poor decisions regarding my brother and not holding him accountable, despite having discussed with them my concerns about the impact of their choices on his life?

You as a sister, have to power nor authority on your brother's life. The best you can do is advising him in a nice way which can be accepted by him. As far as your parents decisions, you should keep full respect for them and if you have a suggestion, you should be very polite in presenting your suggestions to your parents. If you feel that their decisions regarding your brother's life are not correct, you try to explain your opinion to them in a very polite way and you can request respected other family members to talk to your parents in a nice way.

Wassalam.

194639

Brother . Wife . Inheritance

Do the siblings of a deceased brother have the right to inherit the property belonging to his late wife?

If late wife was not their real biological mother, they have no right to inherit from her. If she was their real biological mother, then they inherit from her.

Wassalam.

194421

Family . Father . Brother

As a 33-year-old man involved in a family business, I find the environment unhealthy due to hurtful remarks from my father and older brother. How can I address this situation effectively?

Bismihi ta'āla

They have no right to direct hurtful remarks to you, and they will be responsible for that. Unfortunately, some family-run businesses become very toxic and a reason for severing ties with family members.

They might not know how these comments are hurting you, so explain it to them. They might not mean it as well. Many people express their frustration or anger with verbal outcry, saying bad things.

You must try to overlook that, for the sake of your work. Try to perfect your work contribution as well, so you dont give them an excuse to say anything but praise.

If things get worse, try to save up enough to do your own work, but do not leave on bad terms.

And Allah knows best