Anger

The emotion, Anger, also known as wrath, is an intense emotional state. It involves a strong uncomfortable and hostile response to a perceived provocation, hurt or threat.A person experiencing anger will often experience physical conditions, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Some view anger as an emotion which triggers part of the fight or flight brain response.

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Brother . Anger . Forgiveness

After being physically assaulted by my brother, am I Islamically obligated to maintain contact with him or apologize for what I said to him in anger?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 4 months ago

Tolerating the assault and harm from your relatives for the sake of Allah (SWT) is a type of Jihad in the way of Allah. The Holy Ahlul Bayt (AS) have tolerated great pain from some of their own relatives and taught Muslims how to deal with the relatives in all the circumstances. You should maintain good contact with your brother despite his assault on you and avoid any word or behavior which harms your relationship with him. You should also apologize for any wrong you said to him in anger.

Wassalam.

Brother . Anger . Forgiveness

After being physically assaulted by my brother, am I Islamically obligated to maintain contact with him or apologize for what I said to him in anger?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 4 months ago

Bismihi ta'āla

Being violent to siblings is unacceptable, haram and very damaging for sibling relationships. Try to make mends with him, and apologise if you wronged him.

Hopefully, things will get back to normal between him and you, but he must know that what he did is wrong and must not be repeated.

And Allah knows best

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Anger . Hadith . Modesty

Is it true that rewards for household chores, lowering gaze, and controlling anger are mentioned specifically for males in Hadith?

Reward of helping in household chores is mentioned in Hadeeth both for women and men. Same reward of lowering gaze and controlling anger is mentioned in Hadeeth for both men and women.

Wassalam.

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Sunni . Divorce . Anger . Ahl al-Bayt . Sunni-Shi'a

As a Sunni who has divorced my wife multiple times and struggles with anger management, could you provide references from Ahlul Bayt or specific sayings of Imam Ali regarding three divorces or issues pertaining to actions taken in anger?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 1 year ago

You could look at this also (Shaykh Mohammed Ali Ismail, Islamic Anger Management)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A-MsjDsDB_I

Sunni . Divorce . Anger . Ahl al-Bayt . Sunni-Shi'a

Quran is clearly against three Divorces as you read in sura Baqara, verse 229 ( The divorce is twice, after that either you retain her with goodness or release her with kindness).

All Hadeeths from the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) regarding divorce talk about one Talaq at one time and there is no three Talaq at one time.

One of the conditions of proper Talaq is no anger at all from the husband. Anger invalidates the Talaq. Ameerul Mo'mineen Ali (AS) said: Anger is a type of madness.

Talaq with anger is invalid and your wife is still your wife and not divorced.

Three Divorces at one time are invalid according to authentic evidence from the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS).

Wassalam..

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Sister . Anger . Sawm (Fasting)

I got upset with my sister for using our charger, and in anger, I swore not to use it until she was done. However, I ended up using it anyway. Do I need to fast for this?

You need to feed or clothe ten poor believers, and if you can not, then fast three days.

Wassalam.

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Music . Emotions . Sadness . Song . Battles . Anger

Is it permissible in Islam to listen to emotional music, like songs about mothers or wars, that could elicit feelings of sadness, anger, or happiness?

It is not allowed to listen to any type of sinful music. Sinful music is the music which is usually listened by the sinners. Emotional music which is usually by sinners is not allowed. If it is a martial music of war which is specifically used by the sinners, then many of our great Maraaji' of Taqleed say that it is not sinful.

Wassalam.

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Father . Black Magic . Anger

How can we address the situation where my father believes in black magic and follows fraudulent individuals who claim to offer solutions for it, even though discussing it with him only makes him angry and he blames all our problems on black magic?

Black magic is not the only reason behind every problem in our life, but if you father thinks that and follows fraudulent individuals who claim to offer solutions, you should never do anything or say any word which can hurt his feelings or make him feel disrespected. Let him do whatever he thinks right but you should not encourage wrong ideas or fraudulent persons.

'Wassalam.

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Hadith . Qur'an . Anger

What are the indicators in the Quran and Hadith that suggest someone has been led astray or has a hardened heart? Is it considered a sign of being astray if one reacts with anger, gives up easily, or questions the reasons behind things?

The state of the heart and the spirituality can change with the deeds and thoughts. When the heart submits to the will of Allah and be more involved in remembering Allah, then spiritually increases, and vice versa. Anger is a bad action which drives the person away from Allah and keeps him under the influence of Shaitaan. More remembering Allah increases the peace of mind and the spirituality. The believers who remember Allah sincerely not only enjoy the taste of remembering Him, but also gain more degrees in the spirituality and submission to the will of Allah (S.W.T). The remedy for any fault or anger or unwanted act is seeking forgiveness (Istighfaar).

Wassalaam

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Anger . Mut'a (Temporary marriage) . Divorce

Has the Mutah marriage ended or is it still valid, considering that the man I engaged in Mutah with stated he "donates the rest of the time period" but now claims it was done in anger?

If the man has willingly forfeited the remaining time of the Mut'ah marriage, then it has ended. If you both want to continue together,you need to recite a new Mut'ah marriage contract with fresh time and Mahr.

If he was not willing to end the Mut'ah and said what he said in anger with out meaning it,the Mut'ah remain valid till the end of the time or deliberate termination of the Mut'ah from him.

'Wassalam.

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Parents . Anger . Forgiveness

In the past, I displayed disrespectful behavior and insulted both people and parents. However, they haven't shown anger or sought revenge. Should I interpret this as their forgiveness or do I have to approach each person individually to seek forgiveness?

Their not taking revenge or not showing anger does not mean that you did not wrong them. We must seek forgiveness from everyone whom we wronged. Without that, we will be accountable in the Day of Judgement which is the hardest day for the sinners.

Wassalam.

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Mother . Anger . Forgiveness

What can I do to prevent Allah (SWT) from punishing me for my mother's anger when I remain silent instead of responding to her shaming and ridiculing behavior, which leads her to hold a grudge for days and makes it difficult for me to apologize to her?

First of all, you should never think that you should deal with your mother or father like dealing with others. Parents are above all others and you should always deal with them as your masters after Allah and Ahlul Bayt, and never think them equal to you or similar.. When your parent get angry at you, you must apologize immediately in the way which makes them pleased with you. Never think apologizing to your parents an insult but it is in fact an honor. The Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS) guided the believers to Beal with their parents like a slave dealing with his masters. Such humbleness with parents grants you a status in this life and Hereafter. If you read the supplication for the parents in the Sahiba Sajjadia,bayou will see how we need to deal with our parents mistakes by complete submission and tolerance.

‘You must try your best to make your parents happy with you as they are your origin and the cause of your creation in this life.

‘Forget you ego in front of your parents and deal with them as an obedient servant as far as they don’t order you to do wrong.

Wassalam.